Question about Jefferson and Adams quarrel?

Question

From the book Founding Brothers: The Revolutionary Generation:

What is most impressive about Abigail Adams's intervention on her husband's behalf in his quarrel with Thomas Jefferson?

Answer 1

The fact that anyone bothered to listen to her, as women were not seen as intellectual equals at the time.

Answer 2

What I thought was most impressive was the way she kept her cool so to speak, while she intervened on her husband's behalf she did so in a much more intellectual way than he did.  John Adams had a bad temper and even when he was in the right when he argued he still had a tendency to come across as someone who looked down upon and belittled others for disagreeing with him.  Abigail by contrast could argue her point with a very calm demeanor and come across as the intelligent person she was.