Question about s*x etc...?

Question

Okay, well me and my boyfriend(Jason), we have been together for 3 years. I am 17 right now. Well I talked to my Mom about putting me on birth control and everything and she is alright with us having s*x. He stil uses a condom etc. I am on the loestrin24. Well, we have s*x, but, he wants me to give him oral s*x. I told him that, I would probably never do anything like that. He kida like shook his head. He didnt seem mad but, idk.

Well, I think that me sucking his p***s is absoulutely gross. I want to do it for him to make him happy. I always do everything for him. Should I do it? (I know I seem very immature for asking a question like this on this site or whatever but, im really confused).....

Last question, Is it normal for girls to be shy during s*x?

Answer 1

definitely don't do anything sexually that you don't want to do. even though your boyfriend wants you to give him oral s*x, i'm sure he doesn't want it enough to the point where he'd be happy with you doing it even though you're repulsed by it. part of s*x is wanting to give, not only receive, but that doesn't mean doing things you aren't comfortable with.

that all being said, give it some time. i think most girls would tell you that at one time the thought of oral s*x was completely disgusting to them. but sometimes once you're really comfortable with your partner and have been intimate for a long time, you allow yourself to push your own boundaries. this may happen for you, but if you change your mind about it, it should be your choice...not because your bf is pressuring you.

and for ur last question;YES it is completely normal for girls to be shy during s*x, especially when you're just starting to have it. it's pretty much the most intimate thing you can do with your boyfriend and you're completely exposed...not just physically but emotionally as well. after a while you'll become much more comfortable with it if you're doing it for the right reasons and know you're ready.  

ps. it's great that you're being so safe and using birth control and condoms!! you seem like a really smart girl and trust me, you're having the same questions and concerns that many, many girls have when they first start having s*x. s*x can be a little scary and awkward (in the beginning especially) but it can also be great. stay smart and trust yourself and you'll be fine. :-)    

Answer 2

save you virginity

Answer 3

What do you think is gross about it? Just the idea? Or, him cumming in your mouth? I would try it at least once. Who knows, you may end up liking it. Just make sure he showers first. A nice trim helps too. He can return the favor if you like. If you end up not liking it, you don't have to do it again. Shyness is natural. It takes longer for some people, but it will go away eventually. My girlfriend and I undress and pee in front of each other without even thinking about it. I'm not saying p**s in front of him with little or no warning out of the wild blue, but try taking a bath or shower together. That was kind of like the ice breaker for me as far as being naked in front of each other.

Answer 4

dont let him pressure you into anything you dont want to do. dont give him a bj just cus he wants it. if your not comfertable with it dont do it!

good luck :]

Answer 5

some girls are that way you cant help it. it is totally up to you and he should understand if you dont want to

Answer 6

It sounds to me like you are too young to be having s*x.   Shy during s*x, not unless you are uncomfortable and you are.  Do not do oral s*x if you are not comfortable with it.  I think you should wait until you are mentally ready to have s*x.  It shouldn't be uncomfortable at all.  

Answer 7

Hey, I'm a 16 yr old guy guy and I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. We've had s*x twice and she is fine with sucking me off. I always use pretection by the way , but if my girlfriend didn't feel confortable giving me head I wouldn't pressure her to do it at all. If you care about how someone feels and love someone, you won't put that kinda pressure on that person. Make sure he understands that. Hope this helps!  

Answer 8

if your uncomftorable with that idea then dont do it. and yea, alot girls do get shy during s*x

Answer 9

When you are doing it the first few times you will be shy. About giving him oral its ok but just do it for a little while then just have normal s*x before he cums because you dont want that in your mouth it tastes very bad. it tastes like how burning plastic smells.

Answer 10

you should be totatly comfortable having s*x. i mean of coarse its okay to be really nervous the first time or with a new boyfriend but overall you should always be comfortable.he wouldnt make you do it if he cared about you. just try it once. then you'll find out if you like it or not. but dont do it if he keeps begging you for it and you dont want to. do whatever you feel is the best. if your that uncomfortable just give it time.

good luck!

Answer 11

Yep you're too young an immature to be having s*x.  Im sorry your mom mislead you and said it was okay, obviously you're not ready to handle all of this.....Dont do it if your not ready!! YOU SHOULDNT EVEN BE HAVING s*x! AND no you shouldnt be shy during s*x but OBVIOUSLY your young and not ready sot THATS WHY YOUR FEELING SHY.  STOP having s*x, get a good eductation and focus on things that will improve your life. HAVING s*x is holding you back, you have the rest of your life to have s*x, 17 is toooooo young! Your mother should be ashamed of herself!

Answer 12

every guy wants it. there is no harm in trying it. but if you dont feel good about it then dont do it. dont let him force you into anything physically or emotionally.

i thinks is gross, but i still do it sometimes.

oh, and im 23, been having s*x since i was 17. had 3 partners in all, and now im married. im still very very shy with s*x

Answer 13

you don't have to do anything you don't really want to do. he'll live without getting head, especially if you're already having s*x.

Answer 14

Um. I think you forgot something. What was it... oh, oh yeah.

YOU FORGOT TO GET MARRIED

Answer 15

If you have to ask people if you should do it or not, then you shoudnt do it!

If he repects you it wont bother him if you dont do it!

Answer 16

Being a dude, i dont think you should do it if you really dont want to.

Answer 17

nope i dont think you should do it cuz if he cared about u he wouldnt make u do it

Answer 18

No it sounds crazy. Your stupid if you do it so. Do not do it.

Answer 19

its all your decision. if he loves you then he should understand.

But still, trying new things is always good.

Answer 20

the thought of it grosses me out. if you dont want to dont do it.  

Answer 21

Not all girls give blowjobs and it's perfectly normal not to... if you do give him a ******* -- you should still use a condom! A lot of people will tell you otherwise, but you need to... it's for safety.

I think it's great that you talked to your mom about this and that you're being open with her in this process... that's for the best. :-)

It's perfectly normal to be shy in s*x, but if you've been with this boy for 3 years and you're comfortable enough to even HAVE s*x with him, then you shouldn't be that shy... he loves you, and you love him -- that's why you're doing this anyhow.

You'll lose your inhabitions after the first couple times you have s*x.

Be safe and have fun!

xoxox

Answer 22

I've done it once recently and honestly its not as bad as people say it is .. It isnt disgusting either .. maybe im just saying that because he didnt c.u.m (we got distracted and ended early)

Anyways, dont do anything you dont wanna do and if he gets mad you wont do it hes not worth it right? Even though you've been together for 3 years

Good luck and hope u make the right desision

Answer 23

if its your first time  yes it normal or just part of your personality normal

you can give him a hand job, anal s*x, or you can have him wear a condom while doing oral.

here go to this site:

http://sexinfo101.com

Answer 24

I agree.Oral is really gross.In my opinion  and if he's pressuring you to give him oral than he's probably not thankful that your willing to have s*x with him.Remember men/boys don't think for themselves their p***s's doha ha ha.but it's true. What do you mean by "shy"?