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OK.. so my friend started acting weird about a year and a half ago. We were like sisters. Anyways, so she decided to go see some of her family in New York. She wnded up meeting a guy up there and he moved back with her after only knowing her for a week. She lived up there when she was really little, and said that she never wanted to move back, but when this guy moved down here he was complaining about living here. She gets really attatched to all of the men she dats btw. Anyways.. so she kept telling him no, and then they planned a trip about 3 months after living here to go back and visit his family. She carried none of her stuff, and even had a ticket to come home. She called me the day b4 she was supposed to come back, and said that she was going to live up there. SHE HAD NONE OF HER STUFF! Her parents ended up putting it in storage. So, anyways.. I went and saw her in December, and they were sleeping on a piece of foam in a S****y apartment in upstate NY. She was practically doing anything he wanted her to do, and she didn;t want to hang out with me at all, and when we did hang out he was always with us. I spent 400 dollars for nothing. Not to mention I had to buy them food, and give them cigarettes.. so probably like 600. So, in late January she found out she was pregnant, and she got married to him without even calling me and telling me. We have talked about our dream weddings and how each one of us were going to be in eachothers weddings.. and she could not even tell me. I found out by pictures on myspace. So, I ended up not talking to her for a while until I found out she moved back here. They could not afford the rent, and she did not want to live with his mom or her family up there. Now, I look on her Myspace, and it says she is moving back up there. He is so immature, he plays video games all of the time. He has practically bought nothing for the baby, but he can go out and buy 50 dollar video games. IT PISSES ME OFF! I want my friend back. I mean she even calls my dad "dad," and we practically lived together for the longest time, and now I feel like she tells me nothing. I mean she had a couple of boyfriends before this guy, and she got obsessed with them too. It is crazy! Now, I am thinking about just giving up, and I hate doing that.. but she just isn't the same. I have a child myself by the way.. and I did not get married as soon as I found out I was pregnant.

Oh and FYI this 4th of july they would have officially known each other for a year. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

Sorry so long.

Oh and another FYI.. when she found out she was pregnant she told me if she had a little boy she wanted his name to be something with her dad's names, but he has made her all of a sudden want the name of their child to be the names of his two best friends who are possibly worse than he is. She was really set on the name she wanted, but then we he didnt like it she all of a sudden changed it.

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  1. There really isn't anything you can do except try to be a good friend to her when she allows you to.  She sounds like she suffers from low self-esteem--so much so that she's allowed her life to take a downward spiral.  

    Chances are she's like the proverbial frog in boiling water; she hasn't realized how far away from her dreams she's becomes because it's happened so gradually.  

    It doesn't surprise me that she's stopped contacting you.  She's probably embarrassed--maybe even in denial--and you remind her of what she had originally aimed at.  She knows that you have questions and to answer them honestly she's going to have to face or admit how ugly her life has become.  She may even begin to resent you, saying that you're interfering or that you think you're superior to her.  If so, she won't mean those things; in a way, they are merely cries for help.

    Contact her periodically if she means that much to you, but just know that things aren't going to change for her until she's emotionally ready to take the first step.  When/if that happens, she's really going to need a good friend like you.

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