Question about adoption?

Question

rite hi i am asking this question because am curious

well my parents were talking about adopting children from age of 5+ and well it will be after me and my sisters move out what kind of rules is there 2 adoption like do u need 2 be working or do u need 2 be at a certain age my parents will be in there late 40s when all my sisters move out would that be a suitable age? also any rules or stuff that would be good to know could u help us with

thanx

Answer 1

the fact is that MOST adoptive couples range from 35-45, sometimes older.  The reason is quite simple. Most, have been through miscarriages, and or infertility treatments and cannot have children of their own. Most couples discover their infertility at this age, 35 + when a woman's biological clock really starts "ticking".  

As far as adoption for your parents in their "40's", they are probably more equipped emotionally, and financially to handle a child at this point in their lives. They also have the experience of "parenting", which is what they desire to do again through adoption.

There are many requirements with adoption, however, they vary state to state.  In Maryland for example, both parents do not need to be working, if you find a reputable agency, you don't even need to be "rich" in the sense of the word. You do however, need to go through FBI/Criminal backround check, full disclosure of finances past and present, driving record, full physical, inspection of your home by Health and Human Services, fire department, social workers, 4 non family references, mandatory meetings/seminars, etc., etc., the list for a home study goes on and can take time, sometimes, up to 3 months to complete............the the Wait begins for your placement.

I would say this...........while 40 is considered "older" to parent, it is by no means "too old" to parent. With people living healthier lifestyles than before, life expectancies are increasing. Yes, by the time the adoptee is in his/her 20's the adoptive parents will be in their 60's, however, if 40 is the new 30, then 60 MUST BE THE NEW 50!!! HERE! HERE ;-)

Answer 2

Why are they waiting until their "real" kids are out of the house?  A cure for empty nest syndrome?  

Late 40's is getting pretty up there for adopting a young child.  They'll be in their late 60's when that child is just graduating high school!  Not to mention health problems that creep up on us when we're older; I feel kind of bad for any kids they adopt as they'll be robbed of any sort of "adult" relationship with them because of their advanced age.

Not trying to be mean, but this is what happened to me.  I lost my adopters at age 23 because they were older when I was adopted.  It's pretty sucky to be orphaned when you're just starting out in life.

Answer 3

buy a book.... your questions are far to broad. Actually if you just type adoption into yahoo or google you could get the answers you want. adoption is a serious topic and involves homework.

Answer 4

I can't understand your question.  Can you add some punctuation?

If your parents do adopt, I hope they are a little more concerned with the child's education than they were with you.

Answer 5

Steer your parents toward adopting a furry pet from the shelter.

Children should not be considered a cure for an empty nest and if your parents are not capable of researching this matter for themselves, they certainly should not be entrusted to care for little wounded humans.

Answer 6

Each state and sometimes each agency has it's own regulations with regards to age requirements, etc.  You'll want to speak to a local reputable adoption agency in your area to gain more information on what your state requires. I wish I could offer more assistance but without knowing what state you are in, it is difficult to provide you with exact details.

Answer 7

There are all types of adoptive homes, some are single parents, some grandparents.  As long as you can prove the children will be well taken care of and provided for that's all that matters.  

You don't necessarily have to work, you just have to prove that you have the means to provide for the child.

Answer 8

Well I stay in GA. This is how it goes. They have to go the local dfacs first. Call the 1-800 number. Then they will both HAVE to go to an 2 hour class. Then another class. They don't have to be rich but they do have to have a place,enough money to support the kids and so on and so. But thats for GA. Try going to your local dfacs if you are not in GA.

Answer 9

The requirements are relatively simple.

The parents must be fit to raise the child(ren).

The home environment must be stable and safe.

The adoption must not place an undue hardship on the adoptive family.