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Question about (and mostly for) school guidance counselors?

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At my school, guidance counselors are incredibly suckish. in the past i've had massive issues, i go for one thing they don't help me with it but cause another problem. Confidentiality is a HUGE problem. my counselors apparently don't know the meaning of the word. EX of what i mean when i say they suck: last year i had a guidance counselor who right off the bat i didn't like. very few people did. no one felt comfortable around her. she just seemed like a mean old lady. so then we got through the year some and i asked if i could switch classes and she sorted through and tried to figure out why. then she not only wouldn't help me but was absolutely atrocious about it. then i wouldn't go around her. so then it got towards the end of the year: scheduling time. i picked all my classes and got everything signed, but i forgot the parent signature. so i went down with ONE person and asked her calmly what we should do because the other girl had forgotten as well, without turning around she screamed at us 100% literally, "can you be any more irresponsible you only had one thing to do and you didn't do it. jeez your in 9th grade not kindergarten!" and she wouldnt even look at us. so i left crying and got ahold of my mom and she came in a signed it but then she emailed the counselor and told her that i was having a problem and that she didn't think it was right for me to feel uncomfortable with her. my dad as well emailed one of the other counselors who he happened to be friends with. he asked that it please stay confidential and that it not get passed on and he just asked that the counselor (him not the one i was having a problem with) talk to me about what happened. instead the other counselor FORWARDED the email from my dad to the first counselor BEFORE contacting my dad at all. then she called down to my 2nd period class and asked that i come to her office. when the teacher tried to give me a pass i said "no thanks i'm not going" so she called the counselor and put me on the phone after being the inbetween for a little while and getting tired of it so the counselor said "hi, i hear you have some problems with me would you like to come down and talk about it?" "no" "i really think you should come down" "i'd really rather not" "well, you should" "no really, thanks, but no thanks" "Maria..." "Fine!" "okay i'll see you in a few minutes" so i go down and the first thing she says is "i'm sorry, i didn't realize you had feelings." she said it real mean too, like it was my fault that she didn't realize that a teenage girl doesn't feel things... and then she goes on and was like "there were so many of you there all at once it was just confusing" last i checked 2 people is not alot, is specially when only one of them is talking so theres no way that you could know the second person was there. if you've had a counselor that made you feel this way how did you deal with it? if you are a counselor, have you ever done anything like this? will you ever do it again? i'm kinda venting but i'm really curious if all counselors are like this or if my district just hires crappy people... thanks

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  1. no, i think you've just had bad experiences, my school's guidance counselors are kind and approachable, like they should be!


  2. you are not alone babe. i had to deal with some crappy highschool counselors too but if you need to reacha goal then stay on them like teflon to a frying pan (horrible metaphor lol) and dont relent. i had to do that in order to get things straight for college and the counselors there are okay, better than highschool lol. sounds like you really do have a crappy counselor, i have had to deal with one with a cold attitude this week for my financial aid. i am being persistant though and i will prevail one way or another! have faith babe and maybe you need to tell your mom to bring the subject up at a pta meeting. you seem like the sensitive type, i am too but i have toughened up through the years and hopefully so will you. just remember, no matter what always be respectful of you elders even when they dont. in the end when it comes down to it, if you do the right thing then they will end up getting into trouble for handling the situation so poorly and it makes you look good. keep that in mind.

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