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My boyfriend is getting to where is is very obnoxious and overbearing. He is constantly calling me and texting me, and I can't seen to get anything accomplished because he is so pushy. He always points out my flaws and everytime I try to talk to his he acts like he don't have a clue as to what I am talking about? He always wants to know exactly where I am and what I'm doing. He is really getting on my last nerve. He tries to be in control of the relationship and pull all the srting, disregarding my feelings. He is a very sensitive person and when I try to talk to him he gets all down in the dumps and whines. I'm getting to the point where I don't want to have anything to do with him? What should I do?

Answer 1

Make it clear to him that his behavior is pushing you away. Then, cut yourself off from the nonsense. Don't answer the annoying texts and calls. Don't participate in the discussion of your "flaws". Don't tell him where you're going to be unless you want him to know. When he starts to act like you're clueless, end the conversation abruptly in a way that makes it clear that you won't put up with it.

In other words, don't award his bad behavior with results. Instead, reinforce the idea that his bad behavior will get him nowhere, and that he will just have to trust you instead. Then, the choice will be up to him. Don't wait forever for him to get the idea. If he won't stop this behavior, then he's no good for you.  

Answer 2

i agree with what he^^ said

Answer 3

EITHER

1) Tell him this instead of anyone on Yahoo Answers

2) Go on the Jeremy Kyle show

Answer 4

He's pushed you so far that you are now at the resentment phase.  He has some deep issues with insecurity and had no insight into the fact that the more desperately he tries to control you, the more he is pushing you away.  You need to do the healthy thing here before both of you get hurt - you know you're already at that point now - at the very least - call a time out and give the relationship a rest - once you have, you will start feeling better and then with a clear head, consider if you want to try again.  

Answer 5

What should I do?

-dump him, he won't change and find a bf with less control issues.  I just don't see how people can put up with that sh*t.

Answer 6

Wow, he's insecure, controlling, and a bit immature.

He needs to trust you quite a bit more.  If he can't trust, he can't truly love.

Answer 7

Yeah, I agree with the others. It sounds like he has some control/self esteem issues. If you really want to make this work, I doubt "sitting down and talking to him" is going to help because of what you've described (he'll simply treat you like you're clueless.) I propose this which will serve two purposes: couples counseling. (1) He may think YOU'RE clueless but perhaps he may be more inclined to listen to the observations of a third, objective party and (2) you can find out how truly committed he is to you by agreeing to go to a counselor. If he says "no," then you've just discovered he's not the kind to compromise and it's time to say goodbye.

Answer 8

wow that does sound bad...or you could just be exaggerating. Maybe you should tell him what you told us here.

Answer 9

Brandon: That's controlling and you don't need someone else controlling you.  If he is unwilling to change how he deals with you then I suggest for your own sanity to get out and hope that he learns it is not his place to be so selfish.  I know what you mean about self-centered boyfriends. I had one I swear he was always trying to "catch" me doing something bad and he was so sarcastic about it. If I said anything about it, he would say something sweet and I would be putty in his hands again.  He didn't love me, he loved the power he had over me and he took advantage.  It sounds like a similar thing for you and he'll deny it and try to charm you again and again.  He'll always go back to the same treatment again though so it might be time to go your own way and not let him have that power in your life.  You deserve to be loved by someone who makes you happy, not controlled by someone who makes you feel like you described.  Be strong and move on.  The right guy is out there for each of us and we will find them!   Good luck!

Answer 10

have a decent conversation with him. Let him know that he has to change his ways with you, simply because he doesn't own you. If he doesn't plan to change in any way, let him know that you will call ends to this relationship.