Question about father of baby threatening to petition to get my baby put up for adoption when it's born...

Question

well the father of my baby that I'm pregnant with is now saying that he's going to check into things and see if he can petition for me to have to put my baby up for adoption...

which I think is totally bogus and he cant do that but just incase I wanted to ask what others thought and /or know about this...

by the way,he is in Canada and I'm in USA....

He's upset because I refused to have an abortion and so he dumped me because of this and now he wants me to give it up for adoption and because I won't he's now threatening this.....I asked him today what his intentions were and if he was going to sign the birth certificate and thats when he said that he didnt know,that he had to look into it to seeifhe should or not and he also said that about the adoption thing that im asking about.....

Answer 1

Let's see if I have this right. Your baby's father wants you to put the baby up for adoption ? And you don't want to? Oh well you don't have to do the adoption. He does have to pay child support. Now if you want to put the child up for adoption then you need his consent unless he doesn't support you in anyway. My son has been going through this difference is he didn't know about the baby or her plans for the second child they would be having together she hid to give the child to her new boyfriends family. She also hid their daughter for 7 months. He has been fighting to get his son returned for right now he has visitaion which has been hard when he pays almost 400 month for the daughter and has to pay his way to see his son 3 states away every month on the months he can't go because of money he's depressed. So  for the best interest in your child do the right thing inculded both your self and the father in what ever you decide.

Answer 2

If you are a fit parent there is nothing he can do to force your child to be taken into care and adopted.  It sounds to me that he is a major bully and he has done nothing to help you out during your pregnancy - a time when you should be stress free and as peaceful as possible.  I believe he is calling your bluff - keep a record of emails, or dates of phone calls just in case.  

This is almost certainly a case of him not wanting to pay any support for his child...

Try not to let him worry you - you have more important things to think about right now.

Do take care.

Answer 3

He's full of it.  He just doesn't want to grow up and face responsibilities.

Answer 4

he can't put the child up for adoption with out your consent.

Answer 5

threats are not lega, just words..mere words...you have rights and I was seek out legal advice and take matter to family court if necessary

Answer 6

He can't make you do anything.

But PLEASE DOCUMENT everything he says. Do not speak to him via the phone (unless you record it), keep in contact via email or post, so that you have EVIDENCE of his behaviour. He sounds very controlling.

He probably does not want to pay support for HIS child. You will have to way up the pro's and con's to having this person still in your life, ie, if you go to court to make him pay support, will he cause trouble for you, will he down the line, once he's settled, insist on seeing the child and try and take her/him off you? Is he the sort to try and make out you are a bad mother and give you lots of hassle?

I feel sorry for the child, and hope he/she never finds out, what a t**d their father is/was.

Wishing you joy, with your child.

Answer 7

he can just sign over the rights or just dont even claim him as the father ,and no he cant make you put the baby up for adoption

Answer 8

seriously...

count your blessings.  this guy sounds like a total douche with no ability to think about anyone but himself.  legally, he can NOT make you give up your child.  it also appears as if he's been talking to people who are giving him BAD advise on how to make his "little problem" go away.  

a couple of things:

1) if he doesn't want to sign the BC, take him to court for paternity.

2) make sure you petition for a child support order against him.

3) have a healthy pregnancy (pregnancy is tough enough without the added stress of some dude who's only looking out for himself).

4) go on with your life.

many young women (myself included) had children with men who were unwillinging to step up to the plate. yet, it's not the fault of the children born to these situations.  

best of luck

Answer 9

He can't have the baby taken away from you, at least not in the states. If he really doesn't want the child, have him sign away his parental rights.