Question about issues i have

Question

last year i started a fight with my ex over our last break up i have issues with not being able to get over the past i was wondering can my bipolar cause me to do that? i also was wondering what is the best way too explain and apologize to him about it?

Answer 1

This is normal if you love him and are scared to lose him. You do need to apologize to him and you need to know that thinking about the past is just a waste of time.

Answer 2

Being bi-polar is a challenge, no doubt.  Are you taking meds?  Keep taking them.  One of the classic problems with bi-polars is they feel better, then stop medicating.  WRONG.

If you are unable to get over the past you will not be able to move forward, a sad situation for you.  

This is something I have learned about mental health:  every psychological illness acts (or has symptoms) in tandem with two or more other illnesses. Example: A person is bi-polar, but may also be ADHD, oppositional/defiant, depressed, etc.  

Bi-polar issues run in my family.  I am the only one in my immediate family who is not bi-polar ~~ yet.  I am monitored every three months, at my insistence.  

If your ex is truly an ex, you may never have an appropriate opportunity to communicate an apology.  Explaining would be a moot point and may offend, instead.  

Perhaps the answer is to compose a note of apology.  Write what you want to say, put it away for a day or two, go back to it, revise, put away again.  Keep all your copies so you can make sure you say all you want to say.  

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

try to look forward in ur life

Answer 4

Bipolar is a difficult disease to live with. It can cause alot of problems in relationships in particular if the other person in the relationship does not know you have the disease or does not understand the disease. I find the best way to apologize is to simply say I'm sorry my actions were not appropriate. If this person does not except your apology that is their right. You did your part by apologizing. Dont beat yourself up many people have trouble getting over the past.  

Answer 5

Bipolar disorder can cause people to obsess over things (in your case, the past).

If you do want to apologize, and if it's heartfelt, the best way to do so is in a letter; you can say what you want, in the way you want, without worrying about stumbling over your words or causing further arguments.

Answer 6

Don't explain, don't apologize.  Just let it be the past cause it's over with.

Get on with your future.

Answer 7

Maybe. Or maybe you just really cared about him, and there's nothing wrong with that. You could try and explain it, but it kind of sounds like you're making excuses.

Answer 8

Accepting that the disease can affect judgement, and apologizing for any misdeeds, can be healing.

I'm sorry you have bipolar, but we can all be glad it's so treatable.  I am also diagnosed with it.  Of course, I've done some things I regretted, while in a symptomatic time.  I accept my role, but crawl before no one.

I assure them that I'm taking my treatment seriously, and that I'm going to do my best to be helpful.  

I have always been given the opportunity to clean up a mess, pay an outstanding bill, apologize for an inappropriate response.  

But, it's taking the action that restores the trust.  Promises and "sorry's" don't really make the impact that repayment and amends do.

Answer 9

He will realize that you are nuts so there is probably no point trying to apologize