Question about letting a baby cry it out?

Question

how old does the baby need to be and do you use this method when they refuse to nap in the day?

Answer 1

I let my oldest CIO at 7 months for 2 nights for about 15 minutes each night. He was waking up constantly and not able to get to sleep on his own. After those 2 nights he slept all night. I did the same with my second son and he has been sleeping all night since then. I didn't leave them to cry alone and not check on them. I went in and patted their backs or whatever worked but I didn't pick them up. As far as naps go my youngest has never refused to take a nap yet and he's 13 months. He goes and gets in his bed every day around the same time for his nap and goes to sleep on his own.

Answer 2

"do you use this method when they refuse to nap in the day?"

No, only a******s leave babies to sob alone.

If your baby "refuses" to nap, your baby is not tired. Sorry.

"America's "let them cry" attitude toward children may lead to more fears and tears among adults, according to two Harvard Medical School researchers.

Instead of letting infants cry, American parents should keep their babies close, console them when they cry, and bring them to bed with them, where they'll feel safe, according to Michael L. Commons and Patrice M. Miller, researchers at the Medical School's Department of Psychiatry.

The pair examined childrearing practices here and in other cultures and say the widespread American practice of putting babies in separate beds -- even separate rooms -- and not responding quickly to their cries may lead to incidents of post-traumatic stress and panic disorders when these children reach adulthood.

The early stress resulting from separation causes changes in infant brains that makes future adults more susceptible to stress in their lives, say Commons and Miller.

"Parents should recognize that having their babies cry unnecessarily harms the baby permanently," Commons said. "It changes the nervous system so they're overly sensitive to future trauma.""

http://www.hno.harvard.edu/gazette/1998/...

"Science Says: Excessive Crying Could Be Harmful to Babies"

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/handou...

Answer 3

nope you dont period- IMO there is no age until they are like 4 and they tell you NO! but you could still read to them or something. it's crazy how people just can't wait to do it



my son is 16 months old and i still have never used it and i won't. i don't want him afraid to go to sleep. if your baby doesnt want to take a nap why would you MAKE them. love is a need too and i certainly wouldn't like it if i woke up at night and i were hungry thirsty or scared and no one wouldd tend to my needds. i'm 21 years odl and i know i still wake up at night but i know what's goign on around me, a baby doesnt

Answer 4

they will fall sleep when they are tired  My baby is 9 months old and still don't just let her cry...

Answer 5

Age is really not that important right now.  Babies have different sounding cries.  They cry when they are hungry. They have a different cry if they are wet.  Still another cry for when they are sleepy.

Make a time routine for daily nap. After being fed and cleaned,etc. talk to baby and then lay her in bed with carousel on for awhile. then let baby rest alone. But you need to keep it routine.

Answer 6

i have read answers from mothers that say 6mos plus, some say when the child is a toddler and is crying because they havent got their own way.

i say - i dont use it and have never needed to. i think that if my daughter is crying, her needs have not been met. just because she is fed and clean, does not mean she should automatically be happy. 99% of the time, she just wants a cuddle - babies need love and security and i think its pretty lazy and shoddy mothering to deny your baby that. my daughter didnt ask to be here and therefore does not deserve to be ignored.

i as mother NEVER using controlled crying, or cry it out - have raised a 12mos old daughter who is sociable, independent, not clingy at all, barely cries, sleeps 12-13hrs through the night (self soothing if she wakes).

in response to the napping, if baby refuses to sleep, you cannot make them and letting them cry themself to sleep only stresses you and baby out. amuse your child, read a book, play peek a boo, go for a walk round the block in the stroller - there are loads of ways to trick a baby into napping, most of the time they just crash out.

so please, if you are considering this, please reconsider. just think of your little baby sobbing alone in its cot wondering why mummy isnt coming.

Answer 7

my baby is 15 months old and i still dont let her cry it out . well i cant stand the cries . they re very sharp and loud . so i still dont let her cry it ou but i go stay with her until she falls asleep .  

Answer 8

People say 6 months.  However, my son was ready at 5 months.  But for a nap???  If your child is sleeping at night, you shouldn't force the nap.

Answer 9

Few reliable experts would recommend using it much earlier than 6 months -- and I personally wouldn't feel comfortable making a baby younger than 12-18 months cry for any reason if I could prevent it.

Answer 10

The baby doesnt need to be any age really the sooner you do it the sooner baby can get used to the fact that when babys put in bed they know its bedtime or nap time. The sooner baby will be in a routine.

Yes you could use this method for nap time too. Personally i let my daughter nap when shes tired i dont forse her to sleep during the day.

Hope this helps...

Good Luck...