Question about my sexuallity and i have a girlfriend?

Question

This is gonna be kinda long but very important to me

thanks for reading

I have been sexually confused for like 3 years *am 17 between* i asked this girl to go out with me i knew she will say yes and we kissed :) i kinda liked it but it was still kinda nervous i left her in her house and we kissed again it was weird it was my first kiss i dont know how i got the balls to ask her ok this is were it gets bad =[.. when i think about her i dont get horny just nervous i imagine if i was to have s*x with her i could and i could enjoy it but i dont know if i could get to that phase because of the same thing i get really nervous really easy lol .. please read everything i know its kinda confusing :/ ok i have watched g*y p**n before and i get horny really easy and i *** faster than with straight p**n when i c an attractive guy i really don't think about anything just get like aroused but not nervous.. i dont c myself with another dude but i feel sexually atractive to some guys physically i havent seen g*y p**n in a while but with girls i c them i dont get horny but i think i could get horny when doing it and stuff... when i c my girlfriend i kinda panic but act normal she goes to another school... am really scared that when the time comes i will get scared or something instead of really horny or wahtever i really dont know what to do the confusion is killing me sometimes i wish i was dead =/ i cant c a psychologist because my parents will know but i wish i could go..

thanks for reading again and am sorry if its confusing ill be checking this whole hour if you wanna know something about me to help me more please put it here and ill answer it as soon as you post it

THANKS ALOT

i feel that i cant be with a dude only s*x i guess but i dont think i can do it.. itsweird =/

Answer 1

It may just be nerves. You could get off on the g*y stuff just because it's familiar territory. Not that you have g*y experience, but you understand the anatomy and stuff because, well, you have it!

If this is your first time, it's totally normal to be nervous. When/If it ever gets close to happening, it might make it easier on you if you just express your concerns to your girlfriend. She'll probably think it's more cute than anything else.

If you keep thinking about guys, it won't kill ya to try it out... Test the waters and see how it goes. You have plenty of time to try both sides and decide what you like, so don't feel like you have to make a decision now!

Good luck!!!

Answer 2

So no beating around the bush, I''m just going to tell you what I think is going on for real.

I think (almost positive [pretty positive] ) you are g*y. This may not be what you want to hear, but bear with me. I think you are because you are obviously interested in guys because of all the g*y p**n watching (and when you watch straight p**n, you might realize you are looking at the guy more than the girl). Um yeah having a girlfriend complicates things because now you kind of feel obligated to do something with her even though it's against your will. Honestly, don't do something you don't want to do. If you don't like this girl, leave her. And if you're not comfortable with telling her the reasons make something up (like the whole distance thing, there's this other girl in your school - sort-of-thing.) There is no rush, and there is nothing, absolutely nothing you have to do right now. Do what makes you comfortable and if that means not having a girlfriend, then don't have one for crying out loud. If you find out liking guys gives you pleasure, then stay with those feelings. You don't have to tell anyone.

All I can say to sum it up is, be true to yourself. Everyone else can just suck it!

Answer 3

maybe you just have a lot of respect for

her because i know i have a crush on this guy and every time

i try to think of kissing him or doing it with him i feel weird i think

its because i really like him and have a lot of respect for him and i mean i have watched L*****n girls kissing and such and i like it but i would date a girl but before i

date a girl i would like to date the guy i have a crush on i know weird

and know about the psychologist thing i mean if you were me at the

end of the day you would need to see one but my mother wont let me

so i try to talk to my friend which suck a lot but hey if you want

i can help give you advice anytime

also do you have feeling for the girl at all?

Answer 4

Maby you are bi. I think the best option for you would be a transexual, a man and a woman combined. Do you get horning at all being with her and does the thought of her thing disguss you or makes you excited? Would you consider touching it or do things to it? If not, then you probably don't like girls. But if you do, you're straight. If you enjoy g*y p**n too then you probaly is bi or maby curious. i'm a straight girls and I don't enjoy lesbien p**n. Times like yours is a really confusing times for people who aren't sure about their sexuality. I think what you should do is tried to be with mens to see if you like them or not. If you do, you're probably g*y and if you like girls too, your bi. I think you should experiement though. And I think you asked her out not because you like her but because it's the right thing to do, that a man should only married a girl and have kids with her, at that concept, you asked her out but at the same time, you feel like it is not right, in your heart after asking her out, it's saying, let it be and lets see where this is going, you feel really strange and not right and also very curious and nervous because you don't know where it is going, where it's going to take you, or if it's the right thing to do. Usually when you don't feel right, it's not right but the heart is like that because it wants you to do it so that you can learn from it.

If you feel like having s*x with a dude, you can fall in love with them too. You're just too young I think. So if you get turn by girls, you're straight, if you get turn by guys, your g*y, if both, your bi.

Answer 5

It sounds to me like you really like this girl, and just get nervous cos u really want it to work. The fact that you can get aroused by straight p**n would indicate that at the most ur bi, even if u lean more to men. The problem is, if u get turned on by just seeing a hot guy and *** really easily to g*y p**n, the chances are that you lean more towards men.

If this is true, dont worry, you can still have a good relationship with this girl, and if you're attracted to her at all, when you're both naked it'll happen. Just have fun with this relationship, then maybe experiment with a guy, not just s*x if ur uncomfortable with it, but have an actual relationship. If you're happier and less nervous, then that may be the direction you should take.

But remember, above all, only you can know truly about your sexuality. i know it can be a difficult topic, but try and do some serious soul searching and think about which you would rather be with in the long-term.

If you need any more help, feel free to email me: [e-mail]

good luck x*x

Answer 6

Why can't you have a relationship with a boy?  If you are physically attracted to males, then that's that.  You don't see yourself with a female emotionally  because it's simply not there.  You're fooling yourself if you think you can.  You should end the relationship with the girlfriend before it gets worse.  There's nothing wrong with being g*y.  It's perfectly fine.  If you get nervous around girls, then I'm sorry, but it's not meant to be.  Good luck! =)

Answer 7

Hm. Well I think you have hit the nail on the head without even knowing it. If you are a man and you are only sexually attracted to other men then you are a homosexual. As for being able to perform when the time comes with your gf, other g*y men have done it; heck, some of them even got married and had several kids before coming out. I think that you should look into seeing a school counselor if possible. They are accessible and they will not tell your parents. I'm sorry that I don't have more for you.  

Answer 8

you're just bi curious just like i used to be