Question about my son starting pre-k

Question

my son starts pre-k on monday and tonight is open house to meet the teacher and stuff. well, my mother wants to go with me and discuss my sons temper tantrums and "anger problems" with the teacher. my problem with this is that he pretty much only acts like that for her and i really dont want her to give the wrong impression to the teacher or give the teacher a chance to "label" him before she gets a chance to spend time with him. i dont think im going to take my mother to the open house, what would you do, how would you explain it to your mother? she doesnt seem to get it when i tell her that he doesnt act like that when shes not around. shes concerned about him and wants the best for him.

Answer 1

not to be rude, but if my mom was like that i would tell her to mind her own business, he is your child and you know whats best for him and labeling him a brat to the new teacher is not whats best for him. Children act out in the way they are expected too, and i wouldn't want anybody expecting bad from my child. I would tell your mom nicely that you are going without her, if she makes a fuss about it i would say it more sternly so that she understands. good luck

Answer 2

Well you can take your Mom's interest as a good thing or a bad thing. The teacher might like to know what child has a tougher time at home. I , myself, have a 3 and a half year old in Pre-k and she can be a terror at home. But to everyone else, she is an out going angel. The teacher will lay the ground rules from day one and your son will abide by them, more than likely because it is consistant. Maybe with Grandma he doesn't have consistency, so he just "does" without thinking of the consequences. It is clear to the children in school what the consequences will be. At my daughter's school, you sit by your self at a big table while all the other kids play. Kids hate to be left out! Also, he will be unsure of himself in the new environment, thus, less likely to act out- I am sure.

Everything will be ok. Kids are usually a lot different at school, and are always worse for parents/ grandparents that dont have discipline down pat.  

Answer 3

"Mom, I appreciate your concern, but tonight it's just parents.  I want to go alone (or with hubby)."

All the best.

Answer 4

If really your choice want you want to bring her or not. I wouldn't if she going to tell the teacher like that. I wouldn't bring her. You are his parent..

Answer 5

make them aware

Answer 6

Just you and your husband go, not your mom. You are right - let the teacher form her own opinion about your son.

Answer 7

Your son is your responsibility, so remind her of that, gently.  She just wants the best, but you are right about the labels children get.  Let him and the teacher get to know each other without any biased opinions.

Explain that you are very excited about this new era in you and your son's life and you want it to be special for the two of you.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

I would not allow her to come! that is not fair to you or your son on a special event that is suppose to be exciting for you. This would most definitely set the teacher on the defense with him before he even had a chance. If the teacher notices any behavior needing your attention she will let you know and you can address it at that time. Tell you mother that she cannot come because this has nothing to do with her.

Answer 9

Well, while I wouldn't bring Mom, I would give the teacher a heads up that sometimes Junior can be a bit stubborn.  Every Pre-Kindergarten teacher gets these warnings, and appreciate them.  However, let your mom know that the teacher has obviously dealt with kids his age before... and most kids his age are a little rough around the edges.  That's the purpose of Pre-K... to get these little monsters used to the daily ins and outs of school.