Question about nightmares...Can anyone help me??

Question

Hi, this question is about my husband. See, my husband has been having nightmares here and there for the last year, eversince we have been together. The thing is, is that they dont happen often, but when they do they bother him so much he cant seem to stop thinking about them. and the reason he cant stop thinking about them is because they are always about me getting taken away from him somehow. The first one he ever told me about was about him and I walking down the road and I was noticably pregnant, and someone pointed a gun out the window at me so he jumped in front of me to save me and the baby and he ended up dying on the sidewalk

Last night, I was asleep on my back with my husbands hand on my tummy right under my rib cage, and i awoke a very hard painful squeeze from my husbands hand, so obviously i jumped being very startled, and he woke up to, apparently he was having a nightmare. This time in his nightmare, we were out on the parkway, and we were having a picnic, and a wolf came out of the woods and we were feeding it because it seemed tame, and the wolf suddenly turned on us and got on me and was trying to kill me, so bill did everything possible to get the wolf off of me to save me, and thats where the hard squeeze came in i think, when he was "fighting off the wolf".

My question is, what could this mean and what can I do to help him?? He doesnt have nightmares often but they are often enough that when they happen, they are so vivid and seem so real it bothers him for quite a while afterwards. Thank you for answers.

Answer 1

He is just worried about losing you because , according to what I've read, you are just married and he doesn't want to loose you.  

Answer 2

Dreams and nightmares are usually a reflection of what is going on in your subconscious.  Your husband doesn't want to lose you.  Is he insecure about something?  Was he ever with another women before you that cheated on him?  Do you have issues in your marriage, is he insecure about other men?  Perhaps you have a job that may take you away from him once in awhile.

You need to sit down with him and try and figure out what the meaning is behind the dream.  You can do it.  Don't let the dreams freak you out, instead, try and find the source of the fear.

Good luck

After seeing the note you added, I think you understand why he is having nightmares.  I'll predict that they may get worse as the birth of your baby approaches.  He will want to protect you and the baby even more.  Talk it out between the two of you.  It's not necessarily a question of you reassuring him but more a question of him understanding why he is having the nightmares.