Question about premature ejaculation...?

Question

Okay....I'm being ver genuine here and honestly need some help. I'm 42 and my husband is 45, we have been married for 4 years and were both married once before. First let me say my husband is a pretty heavy drinker...drinking between a 6-12 pack daily and occasionally more. He can also be extremely jealous, anxious and I believe he has low self esteem. With all that being said...he probably has the biggest heart of any man I've ever known and would do anything for me.

The s*x is the issue, although I'm sure it is related to everything I just described. The majority of the time he has premature ejaculation. Usually within 1 minute of penatration and occasionally prior to penatration. There are times when it lasts a longer amount of time...like 10-20 minutes, but not often at all. He always apologizes..which is just what a woman wants to hear after making love to a man...lol.

I have told him that we could go to the doctor and see if there's any medicine that could help but it seems like after the moment has passed...he doesn't think about the problem until the next time we have s*x. Needless to say my s*x drive is suffering and I turn him down more and more. I am even beginning to have a poor attitude...like...I'm thinking...this must not be bothering him as much as he says it does...or he would do something about it. I guess the old trick of thinking about something else while you're having s*x so you don't o****m so quickly doesn't work for him. Other than going to the doctor, I have suggested using a condom..thinking he would be less sensitive. He hasn't done that either. He's the man and surely he's thought of masturbating prior to intercourse also....I'm just at my whits end and am afraid my marriage is going down the tubes...I need some real suggestions...no bullshit please..LOL

Answer 1

Frankly, I think that your husband's premature ejaculation is the least of his problems and I also suspect that the quality of your s*x life is not the only source of frustration in your marriage.

If you can afford it, I strongly urge you to encourage your husband to seek counseling for the drinking and self-esteem issues.  

I think that treating the premature ejaculation would be addressing a symptom, not the underlying problem(s).

Answer 2

theres a few ways to make things last longer first is to lay off it for a bit in the mean time make sure he drinks lots of water (both increase sperm count and amount)

having him m********e or u help dont mater bout 4 hours before u really want the long run to happen will increase how long he lasts

longer forplay will increase how long he lasts

desensitizing gel will also make things last longer

theres just a few ideas but that should add at the very least 20 mins

hope this helped

Answer 3

toys for you will help thats all i have to say

Answer 4

The trick I used when I needed to was to use 2-4 condoms. Also, there are rubs* you can put on the p***s to deaden the sensations. He could try some in a condom. (Like 2% Lidocaine) Also, frankly, there are other things he could be doing to and for you to make sure you are having an enjoyable time! He needs to prolong the the 'foreplay' AND 'afterplay'! "Slam bamm thank you mamm' don't cut it! He needs to think of your needs too! He needs to care enough to see the problem and try to find a way to improve things! Otherwise,he's not the 'man' you think he is!

Answer 5

find yourself a male hooker.

Answer 6

complicated issue, you could m********e him yourself during foreplay, then after some refractory time, when he gets hard again you can try having s*x, if that doesn't work, 2nd round give him a bj and after wards when he gets hard again try for s*x.  there are things you can buy that may help the situation