Question about this kid?

Question

First of all I am 16 years old and I am kind of friendly and outgoing

I do not want a girlfriend kind of thing, becuase I think it is silly becuase I don't ever want to get married! I just want friends, don't care if it is a boy or a girl, I just like to be befriend to everybody and treat everybody equally.

There is this girl I a, guessing mabye 15 or 16 and I met her at band camp becuase I had to play chamber music with her and she was very shy.

I was very nice to her and everybody as well as everybody else,

and mabey that started it, but anyway NOW I play in the same bands twice a week as she does and I have to see her all the time.

All during rehersal she is constantly watching me, I can tell out of the coner of my eye, but when I look over there she looks away. It seems as if she is scard to death to look me in the eye for a second?

I have talked to her briefly after camp in the past and she is very shy

when she talks to me,

but friendly and outgoing with everybody else.

She is always "walking right in front of me" or walking toward me and

cutting to the left as she did the last rehersal.

Sometimes she acts like she is desperate to get away from me when

I am walking out the door.

I have tryed my best to ignore her, never look at her and pretend I do not notice, but am I being rude?

After the concert the other day I was telling a couple of people "good Job" and out of the coner of my eye she stop and stood there and eyed me for a moment and then walked off.

any advice? should I keep ignoring her? Or go up to her and be nice?

Answer 1

Hi! You're right she is very very shy. I had a friend just like her. She wants you to notice her but she don't knows how. You should talk to her about her feelings but not suddenly cause she's going to get scared and situation will be worse than it is now. You should explain to her that you are not interested in her. There is no other way.

Answer 2

well i guess u could befriend her and tell her u dont want a gf just firends

Answer 3

be nice to her! for the first part of your post you said you wanted to treat everyone equally..yet your not doing that! The poor girl obviously likes you, smile at her, be nice to her, if she askes you out just tell her shes a nice girl. you like her company, but you dont date girls :P

Answer 4

talk to her and be friendly but tell her you want to be celibate and just be friends with her.  

Answer 5

im the same way on my views on not having a gf but some times is it best to so your gonna  have to go talk to her she seems like a nice girl

Answer 6

first of all, i cracked up laughing when you said 'band camp'

then, after 5 minutes of wiping tears from my eyes, i thought about your question.

i think she likes you, shes shy around you, she trys to avoid you, but is always looking at you. that pretty much covers the signs of someone having an itty bitty crush...

just talk to her, try and initiate conversation, and see what she does. she might be really nervous and thats why she avoids you. once she gets comfortable around you she'll open up.

good luck!

ahhhh band camp *chuckles*

Answer 7

the girl and i are in the same situation.based on my experience,i think she likes you.u know what?i am also avoiding someone right now because he keeps on ignoring me.don't ignore her.just simple "hi" will do.trust me.it feels bad for us to be ignored without any reason.yes,she is shy,it means she likes you!!don't ignore her or else she will feel bad and will really avoid you.

i hope i helped..the girl and i are really in the same situation.

i gave up already because he really keeps on ignoring me.

trust me.

i hope i helped.

Answer 8

Well..you start your question calling her a "KID" which I find interesting in itself. You obviously aren't interested in her so just go on about your day as usual. Don't go out of your way to be rude to her. If you are a nice person by nature, treat her like you would treat anyone else.

OK now I understand...she's younger than you...

...this one time...at bandcamp..................sorry had to throw that in LOL

Answer 9

go up to her and be nice

if shes shy towards u then she probably likes u

talk to her and get her to open up a bit.