Question about virgos and relationships?

Question

I'm a capricorn, he's a virgo. We have been dating for 3 months now and things are going great, altho, since we got more serious, he tend to be destructive of what we have. Is this a normal virgo behavior? if so, what should I do to make it stop? Every time we will be close he will have doubts and tell me to meet other man, and never believe me when I tell him i'm serious. he will always tell me how much he love me but the next day he will question everything i do. Why do virgos act this way with the people they love? what's the logic behind it?

Answer 1

lol...

Answer 2

I'm a Virgo.  I'm hurting for both of you.  Virgos take a loooooong time to trust.  He is testing you.  They throw a bit of drama into the mix of things to see how you'll respond.  It's very immature virgo-behavior.  I used to do it all the time when I was a teenager.  Learned since then that it's not a good way to keep friends.

So..  In his mind, he tells you to see other men because he WANTS you to cry and beg him to stay and tell him how wonderful he is to fluff his fragile ego.  The more you react to this, the more often he'll do it.  It's a quick fix for his self-esteem issues.  I'm sure he loves the excitement of the argument and the making up "romance".  Virgos are excellent at manipulating people.  This kind of thing is practice for him.  He's feeling you for weaknesses.  

I've done what he's doing all my long term relationships.  As weird as it seems, I bet he totally intends on staying with you.  This is just the "initiation."  I treated the guy like c**p in the beginning.  I loved to make him cry just to feel like I had control over him.  At some point the guy said enough was enough and really threatened to leave.  Do that to your Virgo and I'll bet you'll see a different side of him.  He'll beg YOU to come back.  Don't give in easily.  He'll probably go a little crazy but he'll realize that you aren't to be treated badly.  He'll know your limit and he'll respect you a lot more.

Treat him good.  Tell him he's great, funny, smart, good with kids..  try to compliment him as much as possible.  When he starts a fight for no reason, tell him you won't put up with the manipulative behavior and leave him alone for a day or two.  Ignore him.  He'll go nuts. lol  Tell him you're there for him but he needs to grow up and stop the games.  You're supposed to be a team.  Say you're there for him if he treats you fairly.  He knows right from wrong.  Virgos like to play dumb but they're far from it.

Virgos love head games..  take care of yourself.

Answer 3

lol.....yap your definitely dating a virgo.

about a yr i dated a virgo......our relationship get ruin cz of him being over jealous, control and etc.

one thing i could tell u......if you let him be the man in this relationship.......(means follow every single things he told u) he will keep u forever......good luck

Answer 4

I am a Virgo and he is a Capricorn. I feel like you but about Capricorns. We have been together for a long time now and have a son. However, he isn't like he use to be when we got together. He is more serious and destructive(with his feelings). Every time I express my feelings he shuts down.

I think on my behalf, being a Virgo. I am organized, detailed, and  logical about relationships with others. I don't like lies and I hate to be taken for granted. It is easy to do because I give a lot. It sounds like your Virgo man is testing your love for him. It's not that he wants you to leave. However, he is giving you the chance to. I think he is just protecting himself from hurt. Possibly he got hurt in the past by someone close and it's hard to let you in. Talk about it. Share your feelings and communicate. That is the best advice. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Thats easy to answer. Ask him why he doubts you and what can make it change.... Just listen what he has to say and everything will work out just fine.