Question about wedding drama, what to do?

Question

My fiance and I are planning to get married late next year. One of his brothers dated my best friend for a few weeks two years back and he is saying that he doesn't want to go to our wedding if she will be there. He's a big baby, but anyways... he's doing really great, has gf, a big house, good job... so it's not like he doesn't want to look like a loser or something. There is more to the story but this is the basic, what should we do about this? Should I not invite my best friend?

Answer 1

invite your best friend. if he doesnt come to the wedding, that is his problem.

Answer 2

Of course you should invite your best friend !!!  Tell him to grow th h**l up - And by the way - that should come from your fiance - His family, his problem !

Answer 3

You invite both of them. If your future brother-in-law can't grow up, then he doesn't attend your wedding. He needs to pull himself together and suck it up for an evening. Weddings are big functions, they don't even have to talk.  

Answer 4

Invite your best friend and tell him to get over it.  They're all adults and it shouldn't be an issue.  He's more than likely just not over her, that's all.  It's his decision to go or not to go.  You've invited him and if he has a problem with one of the guests in attendance, than that's his problem to deal with. Your best friend should be there for sure..

Good luck! Congratulations!!

Answer 5

Excuse me but I thought this was your day and not your fiances brothers, when did he promote himself as chief inviter ?

He will either have to swallow his feelings for his ex or not come, I would invite both and not become involved in either of their decisions.

Whatever went on with both of them they will have to put aside their feelings for yours and your fiances sake, for goodness sake they are adults aren't they ?

Just make sure they RSVP.

Good luck, brides are supposed to be happy but isn't it amazing how other people want to cause so many problems for you ?

Answer 6

There should be NO questioning about inviting your best friend just because of whinny baby who doesn't know how to let go of the past.

If you don't invite your best friend, you are seriously damaging if not ending a best friendship!

May you remind them this is about you and your fiance and NOT about them.

If he wants to miss out on his own brothers wedding because of a past chick, then.....that is his own business and choice to make.

Doesn't matter what those two did. What matters is they are suppose to be attending for support. They don't have to talk to eachother or even look at eachother.

Sounds like a grown adult needs to learn how to act like a grown adult and ignore her for one darn day.

Answer 7

You invite both. You make sure best friend is not having a problem. Truly, you do not know what it is that happened[like something happened that might have been a reason to involve the police in, if you get my drift], or if it was something serious. If she is ok with him being there, then do not worry.  He will just have to grow up. He can stay as far away from her as possible.  

Answer 8

well, you should invite them but talk to your brother and tell him that he can just stay away from your best friend the entire time so he won't get upset. if he doesn't understand this then you can't force him because i'm sure he has his own reasons, and you should respect it as well.

as for your best friend, i think you'd regret it if you don't invite her because i'm sure she has been there for you and you for her.  

Answer 9

No defintly invite both of them.  if hes doing fine then there shouldnt be a problem.  this is YOUR DAY, dont let some whining guy put more stress on you then you already have.  if you care about both of them then invite both.  he needs to learns he cannot be the center of attention, and that this girl is your best friend so he has no say in the matter.  if he doesnt want to come because of that then its his lose and hes gonna have to take it up with your fiance on why he couldnt be there on one of the most IMPORTANT days of his life.

Answer 10

no.. you invite whoever you want and if he doesn't like it then thats too bad. its not his wedding and its not his choice. he can get over it. invite both and if he doesn't come thats his problem. he shouldn't tell you who to invite to your wedding.

Answer 11

Invite them both and don't tell your Fiances brother. If he's a big baby he'll get over it. Its your wedding not his.

Answer 12

HUMMM maybe he still likes your best friend a little more than everyone knows or maybe she dumped him or something who knows but really he needs to grow up and I agree his family his problem, yes you should invite your best friend he has to get over it.

Answer 13

He's all talk. It's his brother's wedding -- of course he'll come either way. Invite your best friend, and let your fiance speak to his brother.

Answer 14

You need to invite who you and your fiance want to be there. It is your day--not your soon-to-be brother-in-laws. Stuff like this can stress you out and prevent your wedding from being enjoyable to you. People throw lots and lots of money into weddings, and end up being glad that they're over after so much stress. Make it a day to enjoy. Don't sweat the small stuff. Assure your fiance's brother that they won't even have to speak--that there will be lots of people at the wedding other than your friend.

Congratulations, and I hope you have a wonderful wedding day!