Question about when I go to Japan

Question

well I'm going there to see my bf,we're in a long distance relationship,and he wants me to meet his family but he said his grandparents are strict and would have a problem with the fact that i'm American.I am not really outgoing I keep to myself most of the time,I look Japanese but I'm American indian and white so I have the mongolian fold in my eyes and Asian hair.I have animistic beliefs,similar to shintoism,and I speak some Japanese.How would I be viewed by them?I'm very nervous to meet his family because of what he told me so I just want advice.thank you

Answer 1

Even if you, as you say, "look Japanese", his family is going to know that you are not Japanese. He's already told you that they would have a problem with it, so I can't imagine it is going to go well for you. I would say that it is up to him to speak to his family and make sure they understand that he has chosen you and he is serious about you. But my experience living amongst the Japanese for a couple of years makes me think that won't happen. Americans believe a lover or spouse comes before the desires of the family, but this rarely, rarely happens in Japan.  

Answer 2

Don't worry. Since you have decided to meet them, it is better you start your journey with a positive note. What people, particularly older generation, resent here is the attitude of people from a different cultural background rather than their look. The social value and culture are different in Japan. If you are gentle to them and care for their feelings/traditions, it will take only a few days for you to become one of the family. I am not saying to give up your culture rather you should respect theirs.

All the best.