Question for adoptive parents who are pro life.......?

Question

I am simply curious, but do not feel the need to answer if you wish to keep it private.

Did you adopt your kids becasue you are pro life, wanted children and thought adopting was a responsible choice? Or did you adopt for other reasons having nothing to do with your pro life stance? Or was it a combination?

Share personal stories if you would like to.

Answer 1

I am really, really torn on the abortion issue.  I have come to understand that no matter what I think is a "good" reason for abortion, unless I'm standing in that woman's shoes, I have no business whatsoever making any kind of judgment.  I've made some choices in my past that can be judged very harshly...but I know why I did what I did, and it can be really hard to make life-altering choices without harming someone else.  But at the same time, I'm also pro-life, to the extent that I CAN be pro-life, considering what I just said.

My husband and I chose to adopt for many reasons, but not a single one of them had anything to do with abortion.  I have nothing to do with a pregnant woman's choice of whether or not to abort her child.  I've never met a pregnant woman who was considering abortion, and then changed her mind because I'M adopting.  The two things aren't even remotely related, unless I'm missing something.

Answer 2

My wife and I are both pro choice actually and we are going through the adoption process.  We have one biologically but it was a high risk pregancy and we don't want to risk her health with another one.  We  are going throuhg the process now for adoption from foster care. We already had our baby so we will leave the new born to someone who could not have kids

Answer 3

That's a tough one.  

The abbrviated version of my story:  I was a teenage mom.  I had much pressure to have an abortion from friends, but family stood by me.  I married my son's father and we've been together ever since.  We put ourselves through college, living on a shoestring budget for a long time while raising our son.  Then, when we were at a point in our lives where we wanted to have more children, the bomb dropped.  Secondary infertility.  No known cause, but we can't have any more children.  

Talk about irony.

So we increased our family by adoption, almost 2 years ago, by adopting 2 children (bio siblings) from Africa.  It's been an incredible (but often exhausting) experience.  

My initial reaction to abortion is to be against it.  It just doesn't past the moral gut check for me.  That said, I believe there are some very profound and personal reasons for someone to choose abortion.  

As someone who as experienced infertility, however, it's hard not to take it personally.  There was a time between infertility and adoption where I had to wrestle with some angry feelings and how it wasn't fair that some women either had babies and didn't care for them, or ran to the abortion clinic instead of letting someone else be a parent.  I was very angry for quite awhile.

We adopted more children because we wanted to increase our family size.  Feelings about abortion didn't really factor into it.  Neither were we trying for sainthood.  It was the choice we made as a family (I say this instead of couple, because our bio son was very much a part of the adoption process with us).

Answer 4

I haven't adopted yet but plan to one day. I'd have to say my reasons are mixed.

One I have offered to adopt one of my high school student's babie.  The church going teenage mom was considering abortion and, yes, in that instance, it was pro-life based.  Of course, I was serious about being a mommy, don't get me wrong.  It's just something about a teenage mom saying she would want to know the adoptive family that made me open my mouth and put that invitation out there.  (She lost the baby at 14 weeks in, so I'm not sure what would have come of the situation.  I cried though. :(  

The other reasons have nothing to do with pro-life, but rather,    wanting to provide a good home for a child.

What got me going down this path was foster child I sat beside in second grade.  I was his buddy to on his first day of school.  We shared the scissors, glue, etc my mom had bought me.  I asked him if his mom was going to buy him the same "stuff."  He replied that the he didn't have a mom.  No one wanted him and he was going to from house to house until someone loved him enough to keep him.  He didn't come back to school the next day.  I hope he found someone to love him.  :)

Answer 5

I myself am adopted and have 2 adopted children- and yes, I am pro-life- and even if I did not adopt or was not adopted myself, I would believe that adoption is the better choice- when a mom cannot raise her baby , for whatever reason.  The reason, my hubby and I decided to adopt was that I was on a certain medication at the time that could have caused problems with my pregnancy. If I had had no health issues, I probably would have had my own, but most likely would have adopted as well, do to the fact that I was so thankful that my birth mom chose life for me.

Answer 6

I am pro-life.  I am also an adoptive Mom.  My reason for adopting is because I wanted to be a Mom.  I thank God for my son's life EVERY day.

Answer 7

I am pro-life and believe in Zero Population and had two children and planned most of my life to adopt more children.

We wanted to parent more children, have the time, stability and desire...

We are pro-life and believed there were enough children in the foster care system needing loving families--and knew we could be a loving family....

Because my uncle Eddie grew up in an orphanage and waited his whole childhood to be adopted--and never was....

neither was his older brother....

Because as citizens of the world we should make efforts to change things where we can and parenting with unconditional love was a place we could change something small in the world and HUGE for another human life...or two...