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Is it normal for a 15 month old to be EXTREMELY attached to her mom? When I drop off my daughter to my mother in law, my daughter will cry and scream and pull fits all day long until I pick her up. I only work 2 days a week and now I'm debating if I should stop. I need some good advice please. THANKS.

Answer 1

yes! she is hitting the phase where they are totally affected by seperation anxiety. As my mom tells me, enjoy it now... before long they'll be flipping you off and walking the other way! LOL, I hear your frustration... but I would suggest doing lots of little outings. Even if it's just for 5 minutes, just let her see that you come back, and will always come back. Like many other things, it's a phase that soon will pass. I don't know what to say about the job... its hard to give that advice not being in your shoes.

Answer 2

my daughter is 14 and she is still my "little lech". Its ok, she will more than likely be a "leg hugger." I hope the best for you, but I stayed home mostly and chose part time temp jobs. When my daughter turned 12 and didnt need me as much, I went to school....

Answer 3

my son is 15mths old and he's pretty attached to me. Well, no more than usual really. It usually is related to their growing independence but desire to be with mommy still...so they are torn between venturing into the world and wanting you to hold them.

I'm pregnant with my second child, so I'm not working, and I'm concerned about what may happen when I do choose to go back to work.

Answer 4

Of course it's normal. You're mommy!

It's your choice about stopping. She'll eventually learn to be patient while you're not around if you keep it up. I know it hurts to know she's hurting like that. If not now, being separated from you is a lesson she'll have to learn some time.

Answer 5

It's normal....

If you want you could take her to your mother in law and stay there (on a weekend) so she would get used to her more!

Answer 6

Yes, it's a phase they go through. They all go through it. My 22 month old son is still going through it. I can't even leave the room without him running and crying my name. It can be cute at first but then it starts to get annoying. It can be hard too though. Seeing your little boy cry your name when you really need to go. I just make sure that I give all my kids a separate time to spend with me and my husband does the same. So just make sure they are getting that attention they need.

Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 7

SURE IS NORMAL!!

Answer 8

No you shouldn't. Just think what school will be like for them.  Hopefully it will get easier as time goes on. But I really don't think you should. In a couple of yeasr she will be going tp pre school. Just think how much harder it will be if she were with you everyday

BEST OF LUCK

Answer 9

It is a phase....my daughter went through the same thing and its just something that needs to be worked through.  When you drop her off just give her a big hug and kiss, tell her you love her and you will be back after work just like every other time - you would be suprised how much kids understand at a young age.  But this also has to tie into your home life....you cant be giving in to her every time she wants to be held, make sure you try to give her somethings to be independent about - like picking up her toys.  Best of Luck

Answer 10

my child is 2 and she gets clingy.  she cried her butt off when i dropped her off today at daycare.  she got over it

quitting your job is up to you, but i wouldnt.  your daughter needs to learn independence.  eventually she will understand that mommy has to leave for a little while sometimes.

if you give in, she will never understand that.  im not bashing stay at home mothering, because i am one myself, but my daughter does go to daycare because i need a break, plus i have a newborn at home.

one of my friends is a kindergarten teacher.  she can tell which kids stayed at home with mommy and which ones were in daycare.  the stay at home kids had a harder time adjusting, she even said that some would scream and kick until the mother came back to get them.

its hard, but i would keep working.  she will get used to the separation.