Question for all the teens?

Question

what could your parents say to make you LESS likely to:

do drugs

drink alcohol

smoke

be sexually active

mess up in school

Answer 1

messing up in school cannot be affected by anything a parent dose at home, For a parent to coax a child to do well in school they have to start early and reenforce that the best grades mean a happy life, and that good grades are their own reward.

Second, drugs-alcohol-smoking

these are things that you need to appoint to kids that if they do them you will lose the deepest respect for them, and that getting that back is impossible.

third, the s*x topic.

there is not going to ever be a solid way to stop this problem but the most effective way to keep a teenager from getting somone/ getting pregnant is to place strong morals from a young age of the way that men should treat women and the way women should act. after that you have no controll. you can rant and rave but they are going to sneak behind your back just to spite you. then best solution is to show them you trust them to make the responsible decition and pray they do.

Answer 2

They could tell me to experiment(a bit) and let them have a little bit of freedom. teens naturally do things they aren't supposed to be doing, it's sort of like reverse psychology.

Answer 3

If they take a part in drugs, it could get them addicted and they could mess up their life. If they become sexually active, without the pill or condoms, they could get pregnant and ruin their future/get a girl pregnant and possibly ruin both of their futures.

Tell them colleges are going to be harder to get into as the years pass. So if they mess up, and they want to go to a certain college, if they don't try their hardest, they might not get in.

Answer 4

Well, they could have talked to me about them like my brother did.

My parents are great parents, but they never discussed things like that with me. My brother ended up having to do it all.

I think if they had actually talked to me about the importance of not doing them I wouldn't have so many regrets.

I can still remember some of the things my brother said to me, and some of them made a lot of sense.

I'm ashamed to say, that at 15, i've participated in all of the above.

Answer 5

Nothing except education without nagging!

Answer 6

they will ruin your life and if you do any of these things....i will put you in a straight jacket for 2 years. JK!! No, but seriously..I think they just want what's best for you and if parents and children communicated more there would probably less of all this. It helps to know that you can be completely open with your mom or dad...most likely mom...and tell her anything. your parents will always be there to support you and love you no matter what, verses friends which can influence you into these things. Your rents are your besties for life and when they are dissapointed in you I feel terrible and just want to hit the "REDO" button.

Okay, done with my lecture.

Answer 7

Umm well my parents don't really need to say anything because they've taught me by example that it's not good to do those things at this age. They've helped me focus on more important stuff.

Sure, if they did talk to me about that stuff all the time when I was younger I'm sure I would be curious and want to find out for myself. But, there is that commandment, honor thy mother and thy father [if they're rightous desires]. So, I listened. And I'm glad I did, cause now that I'm 19, I can see how bad my friends messed up that did all those things.

(I'm Mormon) The Church has also influenced my life 100%. It's not a controling thing at all. Following rules makes you free, because if you think about that stuff you listed, if you participate in it, eventually you'll be a slave to those habits and get in some trouble.  

Answer 8

If my parents told me that i would be a disappointment to them if i got involved in these things, then i would not do them.

Answer 9

if you do say anything i shouldnt do i would do it just to get my rentz POed,haha lol. We get sick of our rentz riding us on things we shouldnt do. its annoying.

Answer 10

My parents would basically tell me the consequences of all these things...getting addicted to the drugs and smoking, teenage pregnancies. They always tell me that if I mess up at school, I'll end up working as a janitor or toilet cleaner haha.

Answer 11

nothing i see how it's ruined their lives and my friends lives and just dont do any of that

oh maybe" you can go so far and nothing should hold you back ...but drugs.alcohol ect.. could slow you down, hold you back, and even put a holt on your dreams. remember you are in control of your own life. i trust your decisions and want only the best for you" then again i also want to succeed at what my passion is plus having someone belive in you and be able to trust you with so much of big decisions makes you not want to let them down.

also if the parents on a normal basis dont care where their child is or what they do or who they hang out with or frequently say " yes" to their kids, i find more kids get into those kinds of stuff. But saying NO all the time or close to all the time makes then go nuts in college...so just listen to the kids as well and be there for them to listen or help and be a parent

hope that helped though! please answer mine, it'd really help

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Answer 12

They could just tell me that I would disappoint them and that I could potentially ruin my life and future.

Answer 13

It's not what they say that matters.

It's what they do.

They just have to show that they care.

I don't do drugs.

But the school thing, I'm not so great in.

I think that's why.

Answer 14

Unfortunately, the only thing you can do is tell the honest truth about the consequences that come from poor actions.

The teenage years are mostly about trying to figure out what type of person you are and want to become. So experimenting with different things will happen no matter what.

If a teens actions begin to hurt themselves or others, seek help.

Just stand strong, let them know you're available for any questions they might have and just be there.

Answer 15

It really depends on the teen, some teens listen to their parents, and some don't.

Personally, I want to keep my life on track, but, then again, my parents don't have very much control over my actions.

I don't do drugs, drink, or smoke, however, I have engaged in sexual activity (yea, yea, yea....) with my ...female companion, it was consensual, and we used protection.

As for school, uh...well, there are a lot of factors on that. Sometimes, a teacher might just be a bad teacher; or he sucks at teaching, therefore we won't do as well as our parents want. While there are some teachers out there that are GREAT at teaching, and we can get A's in their classes.

Answer 16

If my parents told me that i would be a disappointment to them if i got involved in these things, then i would not do them.

Answer 17

sorry.

the seed for that was planted in early childhood.

their actions and treatments taught me to respect and treasure myself beyond peer pressure and self destruction.

as i got older, they seemed more stupid, and what they said did not matter, but by then, i grew to be responsible.

i don't smoke, do drugs, drink, promiscuous, and i strive for straight a's in school.  i am smart enough to see the future and dead, stupid and cripple is not in my future.

if u think u r smarter than ur parents...prove it...show it.

Answer 18

Nothing, i'm independent, i don't take advice from my mum.

Answer 19

be a friend. but be a PARENT as well..

my mom was just my friend, and didn't ever lecture me about doing anything.

she went through a tough time and had no one, and assumed that being my friend would make things better.

i ended up constantly popping pills, i was an alcoholic, ive been a smoker since i was 14 (im 18 and dont smoke now because im 9 months pregnant) andi also dropped out of school and got my GED.

SO!

let them make their own mistakes.. but don't just let them go without HOME repercussions as well.

bad grades - take something away. ground them.

i wish my parents did.

if they come home drunk, let them be hungover. dont give them tylenol. vacuum in their room while they're trying to sleep. make the hangover their punishment, but make it a d**n good one.

be flexible with what you let them do, but talk to them too..

they want to stay out until 1 am? ask questions but say ok. then ask the next day how it was what they did.

i dont know how to explain this but.

act like their friend. ask about boyfriends/girlfriends. parties. stories.

but also share some of your own BAD experiences so they have an example not to follow.

invest in them some morals that are realistic.

Answer 20

With me, its just like, I don't respond well to yelling. It just makes me do it more. My mom sometimes says that shes really disappointed in me and its alot harder than her stomping around all angry. She sometimes just doesnt talk to me much when shes "Disappointed" in me. And with some teens, Hey! Thats great! But with me, its hard, and I soon become disappointed in myself, therefore never do it again.

Answer 21

nothing.

1. drugs. - depends if i want to do them. totally my own perogative, and nothing my parents said would make me 100% sure not do it.

2. drink alcohol. - its goign to happen. unless they themselves dont want to do it. but if you tell them not to, chances are they will lol

3. smoke - same as drugs.

4. none of your business really. and NOTHING YOU SAY and i mean NOTHING will stop this or prevent it or whatever. eek sorry lol

5.  .... again. i dont really think there is anything you can do.

sorry but as a parent i think the best thing you can do is just guide your child in the right direction.

telling them or trying to stop them doing things ends up going the opposite way.

i should know. my parents dont let me do anything. im 16. and i do more than they know.

you dont want a relationship full of lies believe me.

hope i helped.

Answer 22

Nothing. The more they say the more it makes me want to do it just to spite them.

Answer 23

my dad told me to "go ahead and live with my mom and **** up my life."

because he thinks living with my mom is when i do bad things.

and it has made me want to prove him wrong.

buuut i don't recommend saying those exact words because it's very emotionally abusive and you should never ever use vulgar language like that to your child.

Answer 24

well to make me personally less likely to do them.. i thin they making fun of people who do drugs .. and show how stupid it is.. but not in that lecture way.. but showing off how dumb it is... uhmm mess up in school.. well just be super supportive.. my parents didnt really care and i ended up skipping a lot and now regret it.. so honestly be a strict in that sense, and let them now its THEIR life, and its in their hands

Answer 25

They tell me stories of when they were younger. And now since my grandma's dying of cancer, I will NEVER smoke. Also, my cousins say that they will kick my *** if I ever smoke. And also my aunts tell me that now they can't drink alcohol because they'll get smashed with one drink. Then my dad's a cop, so of course I hear about all the drug busts and stuff. Teen pregnancies? I wouldn't even bother taking the slightest chance. If I don't do well in school, I'm not allowed to hang out with my friends, which sucks, but I do well in school anyway so it's not a problem. Also, I know that I could mess up my career if I mess up in school

Answer 26

SEE IF YOU RESPECT YOUR PARENTS. IF THEY SAY DONT DO IT, AND SHOW YOU HOW THE PEOPLE WHO DO, DO IT TURN OUT TO BE. IT MAKE YOU WANT TO LIVE ABOVE THE INFLUENCE

Answer 27

All they have to do is show us that they will love and sopport us not matter what we do.

or you can do what my mom and dad sad they are doing if they ever caught me doing anything like drugs or weed they said they will put me in rehab

but all parents have to do is spend time and show us love  

Answer 28

she would say dont do it u  will end up in prison and and she told me that if i do drugs she  will slap me into another family  

Answer 29

NOTHING!!!

Answer 30

Our friends and the way our family treats us influences us to do all that jazz. Just being more sensitive and respectful to your teens will make it more less likely. Give us a break, we're going through puberty and it's SO awkward. We start to feel emotional and think if we do drugs or something it will make us seem cooler or to fit in.  

Answer 31

nothing really, i do what i do and nothing else. at the age of 13, my mind has been molded for LIFE. anything o prevent bad habits had to be said to me like 7 years ago. i know drugs are bad, ive seen people DIE from them. i know smoking's n=bad and it tastes like shittt (tried it) i don't believe in s*x before your financially, physically, and MENTALLY ready to carry out a baby to term and care for it. i don't believe in waiting for marriage, just stability.

as for school, i know its best to do good.

parents play a huge role, when your young, once you hit the 12 or 13 mark, they're job o mold your mind is done basically=]

hope i helped a bit =] dood luck!