Question for both guys & girls...?

Question

Have you ever tried, or wanted to try, to change your significant other?

If there's something about the person you're with that you don't like would you be more likely to try to change them, to move on to someone else, or just live with it?

Answer 1

i have tried b4 and it was actually for the better because it turned out it was ahabbit he was already trying to change for himself  

Answer 2

I accept it and live with it however i do encourage change through means of communication. We always talk about it and try and make conscious efforts. :)

Answer 3

live with it. Nobody is going to be perfect and if you learn to live with it you will learn to love it.

Answer 4

Yeah I have over a couple of things.  With my ex there were times when she would say bad things about pretty much each and every one of our mutual friends.  Just silly trivial things.  At first I tolerated it until it got to be a bit much - I didn't like the fact that she would keep criticising all of our friends (and I do mean all) behind their backs.  I felt it was a bad quality because the more you think negatively about people it kind of takes on a life of its own and becomes a habit.  So one day I had enough and just asked her to stop - we had an argument over it.  Eventually she saw that constantly badmouthing other people was a destructive habit to have and said she would change and I am really happy to say that she did change her ways by stopping the negative thoughts about our friends.

Maybe it's me but I don't like nitpicking on people, especially over silly pointless things that have nothing to do with us.

The other one was her negative self body image.  For example if I would say "I love your arms", she would negate my compliment by saying "My fat arms?  Now this is a girl who was very beautiful with a great slim figure.  I always told her how attractive she was but she was insecure and often thought she was not good enough for me.

She tried to change me in good ways too by being more understanding and sensitive.  I had certain strong views which caused us to have some arguments and she would try to get me to be more sympathic - mainly about social issues.  I think women are generally a lot more open minded about things whereas guys tend to be more narrowminded.  She got me to open up my mind and look at everything in a different way.  I like that.  I like women who are strong enough to stand up to you and try to make their point in a fair way.  It was a big change for me because all the other ex-girlfriends I had used to suck up to me.  I also like women who stand up for what they believe in - probably because it shows they have a strong character.

As for everything else she fully accepted me for who I was - never tried to force anything upon me.  Never nagged about anything.  Never complained that I had many female friends (purely friendships).  If a girl had hit on me around her, her face would go red which was really funny but she didn't kick a fuss over it.  In a relationship you need give and take - you need to be tolerant about certain things because there WILL of course be some differences between your personality and your partner's and the only way to get along is to accept those differences.