Question for everyone who had to step out of their comfy "closet"?

Question

This may sound a little creepy, but how'd you do it?

No, I am not GBTL or whatever you call it. Sorry if that sounds offensive. I have nothing against anyone with this life choice.

Oh, and I am straight. I like boys.

But I was just wondering.

I like to read these kinds of storys :)

Answer 1

Its not a choice, we are born that way.

Answer 2

I had an attraction to other males since I was as young as 7 years old but since homosexuality was something that was discouraged by society. I went into despair in my teens and early twenties but I had finally came out when I couldn't take living closeted anymore. Actually, I told my mother something that I felt soften up the blow about being with males and then I later told her that I was g*y 3 weeks later.  

Answer 3

It's okay to be curious. ;)

No offence taken!

I came out when I was sixteen. And the first person I came out to was my sister. I had been wanting to tell someone for so long! But I was absolutely terrified. So I told her I was a L*****n, then took it back and pretended I was just kidding! However, she didn't freak out or anything, so later I admitted that it was actually the truth. She kept my secret for months. ;)

My parents had noticed something was up, though. So they sat me down in the couch and asked me what was going on. I was frightened. And I didn't dare to say the word "g*y", so I had to get THEM to suggest it.. They got it right after three attempts. My dad was actually relieved about it and thought it was awesome! "Ohhhh, but then we won't have to worry about contraception and you getting knocked up. That's great". XD XD XD As for my mom, she needed some time to come around. But today she has fully accepted it.

I came out to my friends also. One of them I just blurted it out to on the bus. Like: "Camilla, I like chicks!". And then she was like: "Oh, really? Well, so do I!!". Proves she was bisexual, without me knowing it.. AWESOME!! =D

I have this other friend who is a fundamentalist born-again christian, though. And I was very scared to tell her, because I feared she would reject me! However, she asked me about it in the swimming hall! So then I had to come out to her there of all places.. It was bloody awkward, to say the least. But she bent over, gave me a hug, and assured me that she loved me anyway. She still think it is a sin, though. But that's okay, because we simply agree to disagree.

One year ago I completely stopped caring what people would think. So I came out to people at school, and suddenly everybody knew. However, I never got any sh*t for it whatsoever. Quite a few strange glares, yes.. But most of my fellow students were very tolerant, and that strengthened my self-confidence a lot. ;)

Hope I helped! =D

Answer 4

Okay before I answer I need to clarify - it is not a "life choice"! If by "life choice" you mean someone who chooses to live as themselves then you are correct. But most people live as who they are, so I don't think that's what was meant.

Well I came out of the closet first when I told my best friend. We were sitting in her family's cabin in Montana when I sat down by her on her bed and wrote her a note.

It read: "I'm g*y."

I couldn't get the words out. It was too hard the first time. We had a two page long discussion by the end of our "talk". It was difficult to do, but the first step is definitely the hardest.

I came out to my mom a couple months later at a lunch. She told me I looked extremely sick when I told her. I was "white in face". This always makes me laugh.

My dad was next to come. My mom kind of forced it out of me to him because she didn't want him to be neglected; he is, after all, my dad. I was really pissed that it happened like that but now I'm just glad it happened. They are both okay with it and they told me they both still love me, as a family should.

The rest of my friends found out in time. It wasn't too hard after my dad. Just awkward on occasion.

Answer 5

I didn't step out, I was pushed out by an ex.  She told my parents we had been dating.  And my parents promptly threw me out of their house so I could survive by myself however I managed to on the streets at age 15.

Life choice?  I don't think so honey.  I had no choice in how I was born.

If you really don't want to be offensive, please understand that it is NOT a choice for us.  Perhaps a small minority have chosen an alternate lifestyle for political or personal reasons; but the vast overwhelming majority of LGBT folks had no choice other than to be true to themselves.

Answer 6

The question is not offensive- suggesting that my orientation is a choice could be very offensive. At what point did you make the choice to be straight? Chances are: you didn't- you were born that way...

Anyway- I (finally) came out to my parents because it was simply time- I could no longer pretend to be someone I was not- I was wasting my life on a facade. Lastly- It was not comfy in there- It was full of anxiety, self-loathing and dishonesty.

Answer 7

First of all....not a choice.  OK, now...I actually just looked at my mom one day when I was about 12 or so and said "Mom, I like girls."  My mother is a very open minded and tolerant person so it was actually easy.  The rest of my family found out some years later when I brought my girlfriend to a family reunion...hehehe, some were surprised, but most were not : )