Question for first time moms and dads?

Question

When your spouse had their first birthday after having your child did you get your spouse a birthday card from the baby? And if you did not get a card did you feel upset about it?

I just had my birthday yesterday and hubby did not get a card from our son to me...he said he didn't know he was supposed to...

Is it silly for me to feel sad about that? I though this sort of a thing was a given...

Answer 1

Yeah all holidays I started that.

Answer 2

I always get my husband one from my son but I cant remember if he has done the same, doubt it.  Now he knows so in the future he will.  They just dont get it, it is not silly to feel that way.  But the cards will be more meaningful when your son can pick it out himself, it may be a get will card but that's the one he wants to give you.  Then its really special.

Answer 3

I get her daddy, grandpa and grandma cards from her for every holiday, they love them, And I also get them, I put her handprints in them. I would have been upset.

Answer 4

No.  At that point they are too little to know anything about cards anyway.  In my opinion it is pointless to spend money on an extra card.  In fact, my kids are 7 & 12 now and we just do one family card each time.  When it is my husbands birthday, we buy one card and everyone signs it.  Same thing happens when it is my birthday and my girls birthdays.

I wouldn't get upset.  Men don't think the way women do anyway.

Answer 5

With my first son I had him in march and my hubby didn't get anything for me from him when mother's day came around and I was really upset.  I don't think it's too much to ask that they at least get you something from the child.  Still to this day I need to tell him that the kids need to get me something for my birthday, mother's day, etc.  It takes the fun out of it but I want my children to know that when you love each other you do special things for special occasions.  My hubby just doesn't really think about any of that stuff so he needs the reminder.  I would tell him how hurt you are by those actions and tell him that you would appreciate one in the future (maybe your hubby will remember).  Good luck to you.

Answer 6

NO it's not silly for you to feel that way, alot of new mum's are the same, I was the same, some people do do it and some don't, I wouldn't be too upset about it since hubby didn't know, but now that he does that shall never happen again and if he doesn't do it next time then you get upset at him since he does know now lol..  For that lil stuff up tell ya hubby that  entitles you to get something special (another present) for it to be from your son, so either get hubby to go and choose something to be from your son or you go choose something yourself (and make sure it's more expensive then hubby would choose) therefore hubby will definitely will not s***w it up next time lol.

Happy Birthday for yesterday too btw

(((Hugs)))

Answer 7

I never got a card "from the kids" to my hubby. He did do this once for me for mothers day and it was cute. But, I also feel that it is silly. But since you have expressed your feelings, he now knows what you want so just let him know that you expect it from him from now on. If it is that important to you, let it be known. Men are not mind readers, as much as we want them to be.

Answer 8

Happy Birthday to you.  Go easy on the new dad...I dont think that it is a given or that he 'was suppose to' but for you it would have been nice others it wouldnt matter.  We all have little things that are really important to us personally and today this is yours. I think that it is lovely that the baby would give you a card (something as a keepsake) but if he didnt think about it he just didnt think about it...I am sure he will know next year how important it is to you!!  Enjoy your baby together.

Answer 9

when my daughter was first born my husband got my a card from her. I mean just give it some time and things will change

Answer 10

It dosen't really matter. Usally what we do is sign the card from the baby and the spouse. Hope this helps!

xoxo♥

Jillian♥

Answer 11

Ever since my daughter was born if it's my husband (or any one else in the families) birthday or any holiday for that fact I get them a card and a special gift just from the baby. No the baby can't sign the card but it's a sentimental thing (men just don't get that)... and since baby can't sign the card I put her hand on it and draw the outline... kind of like it's her leaving her mark.... I think it's just something women think about and feel strongly about and men just don't get it. (when do they ever??!) My husband got me a mothers day card from the baby (because I told him to) and he didn't sign it... I was upset but this is just how guys are ..if you expect him to do something you need to tell him because otherwise it's a 99% chance that he won't think of it himself.