Question for ladies???? Independent women?

Question

Do you get annoyed if the man you're dating is TOO nice to you? like offering you rides, always asking if you need help, etc...

Answer 1

I don't think I've ever had the pleasure of dating someone who was too nice.  no, I wouldn't break up with him - I'd keep him under lock and key.

Answer 2

If he did it ALL the time like I was some kind of deity, yes, I would be annoyed. But I wouldn't break up with him for it. I would just tell him to tone it down.

Answer 3

YESSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!...I mean it is nice at first..but after a while it gets pretty darn annoying...before you know it, he would want to spoon feed me too!

Answer 4

if it's constant, then yes

i may not break up with him, but i would let him know i was getting annoyed

Answer 5

Depends. If I felt that I am respected and am treated equally than no, that'd require him to take my advice to stop with all the silly chivalry stuff. If I feel that it's his way to meet his masculinity/superiority proof needs at my expense and he'd be oblivious to my needs to feel equal than yes, I'd be gone faster than you can say "house wife".  Nice and smart is attractive. Bigotry presented as "nice" isn't.

Answer 6

Hmm... No, I don't think if would annoy me if a man offered me rides and always asked if I needed help, as long as he didn't mind if I sometimes said I didn't need a ride or help or whatever.  I think it's nice to ask, as long as it's purely an offer and doesn't have a hidden agenda, like wanting to keep tabs on me, or wanting to live in my pocket.

One thing I find really difficult is clingy men.  I like my personal space and time for myself, and I don't want to spend every waking moment with a partner.  If a man wants to be with me too much I wonder why he doesn't have anything better to do!

Answer 7

Its sounds like you're describing a "clinger".  Yes, they can be very annoying.  They have mental problems and are likely to become stalkers.

Answer 8

i dated a nice guy, and i loved it! i've never been treated better. i didn't break up with him because he was nice to me. there's no such thing as too nice.

Answer 9

No I would just tell him that it is appreciated but unnecessary. I like gentlemen but they don't have to treat me like a queen just with respect.  

Answer 10

No, you can never be too nice

Answer 11

No.

Answer 12

Yes it would creep me out, because guys who have that creepy too-niceness to them always turn out to be either:

a) total deviants

b) psychos/nutjobs/weirdos etc

I'm being quite serious; it's a huge red flag.

PS The examples you gave don't actually sound TOO nice though, just nice.

Answer 13

It depends, I guess....I once dated a guy who DEMANDED that he open EVERY door for me and pull out every chair, and so on.  He even went to far as to make me get out of my car once, when I had already gotten in, simply so he could open my door....don't be that guy.  Bleh.  Yes, I did break up with him.

Also, if you are with the wrong chick, she will start to take advantage of you.  That happened to my brother.  In that case, you will want them to break up with you.

You need to be a little more specific about how often "always" is.  Is she accepting your offers, or kind of ignoring them, or flat out refusing?

Although, a simpler approach would be to talk to the girl.  Simply say something like "Hey, I really enjoy being there for you and helping you out.  It makes me feel good.  But sometimes I feel like I might be annoying you.  Do you feel that way?  Am I annoying you, or do you appreciate my offers?"  If she is a good girl, she will appreciate not only your loving care, but also your sincerity and regard for her feelings.

Answer 14

As long as his intentions were sincere, no I wouldn't mind.

Answer 15

Interesting/nice doesn't turn women on.

Answer 16

By technicality, I am no longer independent. However, when I was, I was dating my now husband who you described perfectly! Problem is that I didn't like it, it was that it can get annoying. Obviously, I didn't break up with him though, because we are currently married! Although, he has backed off quite a bit, but loves when I am pregnant cause then he can be super nice to me again, without me getting annoyed, cause that's when I enjoy the help!