Question for men: Have you ever separated from your wife, but was still in love with her?

Question

My husband moved out a few weeks ago. We've had our problems in the past, but sometimes seems like things never get better. They will be fine for a little while and then back to the same thing. I think this is something that happens in a lot of marriages, but he says it makes him unhappy. He says he still loves me very much and doesn't want it this way, but doesn't see any other way. We are still communicating and seeing each other from time to time. I don't want a divorce because I still love him very much, and he says he still loves me and thinks about me. What do I do? Have any other men been in this situation?

Answer 1

Yes I have been separated before and not by choice. I still loved her but was pretty d**n mad at her for not wanting to work things out. Actually the things that needed worked out were her issues with substance abuse.

We divorced and a year later she was really sorry but it was too late.

Life can suck...

Answer 2

Well through out time i learned and accept that i still love both my ex,s . There is more to love then just having s*x or agreeing with each other on everything . You love your mom and dad all though they make you mad at times you dont just disown them . Love never really does die no matter what happens . Some say they dont love him or her anymore but they still think about them from time to time and mostly there the fond memorys . In time we tend to forget about the bad just as we forget about the bad in mom and dad . If thats not love then i dont know what is . We are all imperfect . Your only fooling yourself if you think you are better then the next person

Answer 3

just because u move out dont mean you lose all feelings for that person, even if they hurt you

Answer 4

The only thing I can think of is to find sustainable solutions to the problems.  Since you are having trouble with problems going back to the same thing.  You need to start out slow and work on them continuously.  If you or he find yourselves slipping back talk about it right away.  Keep at them until the new way becomes a habit.

Answer 5

I personally am not in your situation, but 2 people very close to me are...my mom and ex-stepdad. They married when I was 9, so I still very much have contact w the stepdad because he's been in my life for 14+ years. Sometimes they both get really down and try to talk to me about their feelings etc. They both still are very much in love with each other, but have come to realize that some people just can't make it work.. They couldn't make it work. They tried marriage counseling and stuff like that, but they just cannot get along while living together. I hope I helped and good luck!

Answer 6

dont u think about ur past boy friends???

they not only think about u but even all bygone gf's also

relax

Answer 7

You need to understand what is really going on here...

He is setting you up to be his safety net. That is, if things do not go well for him on the dating scene, he has you to fall back on. Like you are his plan B.

Wake up!

You are beautiful and worth so much better than this!