Question for older, less "amorous" men...?

Question

So, my husband of 5 years has completely lost interest in s*x. For the 6 months before we moved in together he wouldn't keep his hands off me (4 or 5 times a night!), but from the the first night in our apartment together the s*x has gotten shorter and less often. That first year it went from once a week to once a month. For the last 3 years I'm lucky if it is once every 6 weeks and even then it is only when he is sleeping (he has a condition called sexsomnia where he has s*x in his sleep. It's a real thing, I asked my doctor!).

This constant rejection is making me feel really depressed. I haven't put on weight, I still dress well, and I try not to pressure him or make him feel bad. s**y lingerie doesn't work because it just makes him mad that I am trying to "pressure" him. I just don't know what to do anymore and I feel so frustrated and rejected. Also, he has gotten more and more jealous as time goes by and now he won't even let me go out with friends unless he feels like going, too (which he never does).

I am so alone and isolated. Any suggestions for getting him interested again?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Don't preasure him then.  Just take what you want in a polite way.  Set down to watch a movie and lay you head on his lap and just start from ther until you end up where you want to be.  Just do a little more stuff to take advantage of him.  I would search and see if any medicne he is taking may be a problem or get him to quit stressing over stuff and enjoy what is happening.  Take him out for some fun.

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Answer 3

um i dont know try couples counceling

Answer 4

He's 25? Sleep s*x my a**... Something else is going on with your man. If you're not turning him on then someone else is. At 25 he is still far away from his sexual prime. He should be getting horny when the wind blows. He should be looking at fruit and thinking of hammering you in the foyer. he's supposed to run up in you whenever you bend over to look in the cabinets. To quote Hamlet; "Something is rotten in Denmark"

Answer 5

His drive shouldn't be so low at his age. There may be a medical problem...and if he's getting more and more controlling over you, what might your life be like in another few years?

I strongly suggest he be checked out medically to see if there is a reason for his lack of desire (as you said, he's capable of performing so maybe it's a hormone issue that's affecting his libido). If all is well physically, the next step is counseling together. You two need to discover why he's off s*x and why he's cutting you off from others.

Those things would seriously be deal-breakers for me, if my partner wouldn't get help for the s*x issue, and relax re: the control issue (because I'm not the type to stay home because my partner says I have to...he's not my parent or my boss, but my equal and cannot control my behavior, nor I his).

I hope things get better for you...or I fear the potential is for them to get much worse.