Question for older women

Question

I've been friends with somebody since my partner died (9 months ago). She is getting divorced, we share our troubles with each other and do lots of fun stuff together. Inevitably I find her attractive and she has admitted to finding me attractive.

She says she's proud of the fact she didn't have an affair while married and I have been grieving.

Lately we've been discussing relationships. She has said she wants 'romance', and then later said she wants 'passion', to quote her 'older ladies like a bit of passion'. She's early 50's, Im 38. I invite her in for coffee (no, actually for coffee) and there seem to be no signals to take things further.

Is there something there? Am I reading too much into her actions? I really can't tell. Any advice would be helpful.

Answer 1

I think its better to just have a sit down and be up front theres no way of being able to read someones mind. Thats the only way you'll know for sure.

Answer 2

It sounds like she is enjoying your company and getting to know you. As we know you both are going through emotional stuff right now and honestly to take it slow like this you become friends before it would come to any thing else. Divorce is a loss too just in another form and there is alot of emotional stuff that goes with it. But I'm sure for both of you she doesn't want to be a rebound of sorts to you or her.