Question for parents: Does this make her a hypocrite?

Question

A friend of mine used to smoke marijuana. She has 2 daughters. She says that she would feel like a hypocrite to tell her kids not to smoke MJ because a - she doesn't feel it's wrong and b - she would feel like a hypocrite because she used to do it. But she will talk against any other drug. Is this an interesting concept? I've never heard of such but then I don't have any kids either. She doesn't think MJ is bad and feels it should be legalized. Thoughts? Comments?

Answer 1

If she feels it's ok to do, then she would be a hypocrite to tell them NOT to do it.  But since she wouldn't tell them not to, since she herself has done it and feels it's ok, she's not a hypocrite.  I don't necessarily think she's a good parent, but she's not a hypocrite.

Answer 2

Don't tell them you smoked BO! Then suggest they try not use the stuff. Not because there's something wrong with it rather, they could get caught by the fuzz.

Answer 3

OK...this isn't about her personal point of view, it's about being a good parent. A good parent tells their child, "It is BAD to break the law." I think my answer is influenced by Dr. Phil.

Answer 4

she's been there and doesn't want her kids to make the same mistake she did

Answer 5

Parents should not lie to their kids. Vegetarian parents should not say that they think eating meat is OK. Dope-smoking parents who see nothing wrong with marijuana should not tell their kids that it is wrong to smoke it.

But I think your friend should arm herself with better information. Sure, it's not as harmful as heroin, but it's not harmless either, especially in large doses.  

Answer 6

no, i have done plenty of things i wouldnt want my son to do. it doesnt make me a hypocrite, it makes me a mom.