Question for parents with more than 1 child.?

Question

Who is your favorite child? Why is that your favorite child? Where in the family do they belong (like oldest or youngest)? I know deep down all parents have a favorite child, but they never admit it because they don't want the other children's feelings. My parents might have their favorite child, but I don't know which one (they do a good job at hiding it). If your gonna say you don't have a favorite child, please explain (with good detail) why. I'd also appreciate if you'd be honest. Best answerer gets 10 points. Thanks in advance!

Answer 1

I have no favorites.  I love both my children equally...unless one is screaming and the other is quiet.  Then my quiet one is the favored, lol.  But really I don't have a preference.  I love them both equally.

And no, not all parents deep down inside have a favorite child.

Answer 2

My kids are in the process of leaving home (2 in college, 1 in last year of high school), and as I look back, I think that although I love them equally and with all my heart, there were times when I was more involved with or more excited by one of them.  

Each time I had a new baby, that one became more fascinating and more demanding, and the others took a back seat - temporarily.   When one of them started something new, like a sport, a musical instrument, or an interest, it was like I was learning it right along with them.  They took me so many places I never dreamed I'd go - skate parks, horse shows, even to Japan!  Each time, I felt just a little more preoccupied with the one who introduced me to those new experiences.

My oldest was the one who led our family into each new stage, so all of the "firsts" -   walking, talking, day care, kindergarten, high school, driving a car, going to prom, looking at colleges, graduation, and leaving home - were more memorable and poignant when he did them.

And like many moms I know, I have to admit that I occasionally find myself treating my firstborn son like royalty - maybe because he's left home, and I so appreciate his visits and phone calls.  I'll do anything to get them - LOL!

Answer 3

My favorite...........lets see!

I really don't think I have an overall favorite.  However I am closer to different kids in different areas.  My oldest and I are very close and share a lot of emotional things.  We connect.  My middle is my only girl so she is my favorite to shop with and to do girl things.  My youngest is my favorite little clown the one I love to cuddle and hold and he just makes me laugh all the time.  So yes in a sense each one in my favorite in one way or the other.  However I love them all equally and feel very blessed to have each of them in my life.

Answer 4

i dont think parents have a favorite child. but i love my kids for different things but all equally as much.

i get along with one better one day and the other the next.

i am closer to my oldest because ive known him for 4 years. the others are 2 yr old twins and a 4 month old. obviously their personalities havent really shown through. but i love them more than anything.

i love how my oldest adores his dad and is happy with the simple things.he is the most caring kid ever but will stand up for himself in a heartbeat.

one of my twins i love because he is a little ball of energy and keeps me laughing.

the other twin i love that she is a typical girl. she is very nurturing and motherly and is my little shopping buddy.

and my 4 month old is sooo cute. i cant be upset when he is around.

i love them for different reasons but i dont have a favorite and love one more than the other.

Answer 5

I am with the majority, I don't have a favorite. I have a 6 y.o. girl who is much easier to take care than my 2 y.o. boy, but I love them both the same.  My daughter has asked me that too.  One funny thing is that my older sister and I would say to eachother that each of us was my moms favorite.  We laughed at it all the time.  However, I once told my brother that jokingly and he didn't think it was very funny.  He was the baby for 8 years before I was born and he still has issues with that even though he is in the mid-50s...

Answer 6

I don't have a favorite child. They are all special in their own way and you love something about one of them that the others don't have or do. My daughter claims that she is last on my list and her fathers. She is the only girl which makes her a little more special. She is also very fun and very out going.  The oldest is just that and he is very responsible and will jump in a take over with out being asked and that makes him special. He always knows  what to do and he has a great sense of humor. The youngest is the baby and like a lap dog at 11 still and he is special for that. He still acts like a child and seems so innocent. Sometimes he makes us laugh too although he is not as funny as he thinks he is.

Answer 7

Hummmm.....my favorite??? I have four children, girl 20, boy 17, girl 14 and girl 12. I have to agree with most of the other posters on here...I don't have a favorite. I love them all equally and like them all in different ways. For instance: My oldest and I kind of grew up together. We experienced things as a team, so she's my favorite when it comes to being empowered by love. My son...well, he's the only one I have, so he's my favorite based on the learning experience hes given me. My 2nd daughter is my favorite because of her strength, determination and wisdom and my youngest is my favorite because she makes me laugh and takes my parenting skills to new heights! So to answer your question...I don't think it's possible to have a favorite if you love your children, if you are a loyal parent...they are all a part of you.....each different...each the same...

Answer 8

I am mom to 4 children who are now 29, 26, 23, and 10.  None of them are looking over my shoulder so I don't feel the need to lie to protect anyone's feelings.  I do not have a favorite child.  I love each one equally, yet differently, since each one is a unique individual.  Some times I like one better than another, but it doesn't affect my love at all.  Each of my older children has gone through some rough patches in their life where bad choices were made and I expect my youngest will go through that at some point as well.  I think when times were toughest with them is when I loved them most, but it was not the type of most that made my love for the others be less.  Until you are a parent, it is hard to understand how it feels.  I can't explain how it works, but it does.  It is true that some parents do have an obvious favorite, but I don't think most parents operate that way.

Answer 9

All 3 of my kids are so different - there are things I like and dislike about each one of them. I connect with each one in different ways. I really do love them all equally, but at any given moment the one I like best (my favorite) is whichever one is listening and not giving me a hard time - lol.

Answer 10

I honestly don't have a favorite child. I have a son, who is my oldest, and a daughter. I love both my kids with all my heart. They are unique individuals, so of course I relate to them differently, but that by no means puts one above the other. My life would not be the same if they were not a part of my world.

Growing up, I always felt my mom favored my older brothers, my sis felt that too. But the funny thing is, my brothers felt she favored us girls! I guess maybe in part it can be our perception as far as favoritism goes. It is indeed sad when it is felt, real or imagined!

Answer 11

I have two children.  I have a boy and a girl.  The girl is the oldest and has graduated high school and gone on to college.  The boy is still in school.  As to favorites...I do not have any favorites.....it is hard on a child that knows they are not the favorite.  They fell inferior to the other one or others in the family.  Also having favorites makes it very possible for the parents to see no wrong in anything the child does.  They will possibly set high standards that one child made and expect it of the other one....all kids are different.  Also having a favorite if the kids know causes jealousy and the parents may think it is from another source altogether.  When I tell my kids I tell them I have a favorite alright....a favorite daughter and a favorite son.....tell all of your children they are your favorites....and secretly....I do not nor can have a favorite between them....for they have a close bond as well and they can almost read each other as well as I can read them...they would know if I picked one over the other.

Answer 12

I hate admitting I have a favorite child but I freely admit that I relate better to my only daughter who is the middle child and 12. I think I simply relate to her better because she is in fact a daughter.

My mother died when I was 16 and I have so much passion and happiness looking forward to doing things with my daughter as she grows that I never got to do with my mother.

I love my sons dearly but they are not daughters so I relate to them in a whole other way.

And I do not think it is wrong -- I think it simply is.

Answer 13

Your premise is totally mistaken.  I was so sure when I was pregnant with my second that I could never love anyone the way I loved my first, and that I'd end up with a favorite (and scar my second for life).  I was completely wrong, and now have four and can say with 100% honesty that I don't have a favorite or least favorite child.  I love each of them in a totally overpowering way.  They each have their own distinct qualities that are amazing, and their own struggles.  But the love you feel for a child has nothing to do with their particular challenges and strengths.  It's deep and primal and equal for each kid.

I'm actually baffled by people who say they have a favorite child, and I usually assume it's because one of their kids is going through some really difficult phase.  I can't even imagine what it would feel like.  It's like favoring one lung over another.

Answer 14

I honestly don't have a favorite.  I think that I couldn't possibly have a favorite either because I truly do love them all the same.  If I had to pick, it would probably be my only daughter because we tried so long for a girl and finally got one after three boys, but that would be the only reason.  And that's a pretty biased reason.  Right now she's only 7 months, so I don't really know what girls are like when they are talking and walking.  I might end up wishing I'd had all sons!  But I truly don't feel like I have a favorite.  I tend to favor my oldest because he is so much more capable and can help me out better than the others can and is also smarter (but he's had more years of life and therefore knows more).  I'm sure the others will be just as smart or smarter when they get to be his age and older.  

I never felt that my parents had a favorite, and I really doubt they did.  Having a favorite child among children you've given birth to wouldn't be the same as, say, a teacher having a favorite student.  I had favorite students as a teacher, but there were students whose parents I didn't like, which colored my opinion of them, students who behaved so badly that I just couldn't stand them, etc.  When my own kids behave so badly that I can't stand them, I hate myself for not being able to stand them because of my duty to raise them right.

Answer 15

I dont have a favorite child, some days, I get along better with one than the other though, but it varys day from day, i am going thru terrible twos along with a teething 7 month old, I think they take turns misbehaving! I love both kids a lot, but for different reasons, my daughter (oldest) is feisty, sweet, smart as h**l and I adore her laugh. My son (youngest) is cuddly, has the cutest smile, easygoing and is also smart, but in a different way than his sister (he's more mechanical already)

I dont feel a parent should have a favorite, I was worried about that when i was pregnate with my second. It was hard to believe i could love another child as much as I loved my oldest, but i found that once my son was born, I have had no issues! They are both amazing individuals in their own way.