Question for people in purely physical, sexual relationships?

Question

How and when do you call it quits?

What would make you end the FB relationship?

I recently entered what I assume is a purely sexual relationship with my neighbor and I think I'm going in over my head with this. I feel like I'm going to be hurt in the long run for many reasons. The thing is I'm only sexually and physically attracted to him. I don't want him as my boyfriend because there's nothing he can do for me on that level. But this is making me feel bad and I wonder if I should stop. It's very clear that we are using each other but I don't want to get hurt.

Answer 1

I called it quits waaaaaay too late.

I realized that it was sick and wrong to continue using and being used by a friend that I loved. I was disgusted by myself.

I suggest stopping now. One, or maybe even both, of you are going to get hurt. You will feel more dirty and more disgusted with what you're doing the longer you do it.  

Answer 2

You don't have to be "using" each other, just keep it real from the start.

There's plenty of people that look for the same thing, all you gotta do (if you want to try the whole FB thing) is be honest and straight up with it.

Just say you just want s*x and that's it, if he agree then it's a deal. If not, then wait for the next guy.

But s*x is a lot better when love is involved. :D  

Answer 3

tell him exactly that.

and stop it.

Answer 4

You sound like you want out.  If it's only physical, do you have to give him a reason?  If you want to tell him why, just be honest.

I had a similar relationship and ended it because my friend told me she liked him.  I went to his place and said, "This isn't working out.  It's been fun, but I'm moving on."  He was disappointed but he understood.  I gave him a kiss on the cheek and left.  I didn't even have to let him know what my friend told me.

Answer 5

you should just keep it at s*x and leave the emotions out.

Answer 6

If you don't want to be hurt and you don't want this to haunt you later on, then end this cold-turkey as soon as you can.

You already recognize the dangers of being in a relationship like this and if you don't, believe me, there are huge consequences, I've been through this.

This is not going to contribute to your future, and as a matter of fact, it won't contribute to true happiness either, so why continue something that is destined to end anyway? This "relationship" will only hold you back from other prospects in your life yet to come.

End it and move on.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 7

ok, the thing with these situations, i believe, is when u start to grow a concience about it, or develp certain feelings- it needs to stop. u wanted a no strings attacthed deal, but it sounds like the "strings" are starting to appear. get out before ur in over ur head. u cant hurt anyone at this point if u just make a clean break. he'l understand. be strong sweetie! :)

Answer 8

Trying to figure that out actually.  We've been in a physical friendship, it's definitely not a relationship, for over a year.  What we do doesn't bother me but it doesn't really do much for me anymore either.  I don't know how to tell him.  My experience is not causing problems so I have no reason to really do much about it.

I think my best suggestion for you is if you feel like it's causing problems, end it. As far as how, I'm not sure.  Good luck.

Answer 9

there are a lot of benefits to this type of relationship.  if you continue, you have fewer partners in the long run.  you can take your time when you pick the next person you date.  once you start dating someone, of course, you should end the s*x-only relationship.  if it makes you feel bad, you should quit.  but try to keep your options open.  good luck.

Answer 10

Bob Seger said it best

"I used her

she used me

neither one cared

We were getting our share"

The male brain is wired for compartmentalizing the world of s*x and relationships

If you are going to do FBs then I suggest that you learn to follow suit

Good luck