Question for people who go to therapy?

Question

Do you share everything -like every single deep dark secret- with your therapist? Or are some things so sacred that you can't open up to anyone?

Answer 1

There are some things I can't share with them b/c of fear of what they're going to do next, or what they might use against me.  

Answer 2

I don't share everything. I tell a lot. But some things are just better left unsaid. The only other peson who I tell everything to is God and Jesus.

God Bless!

Answer 3

If you don't you are wasting your time and money, most thing we are afraid of sharing is what is causing the anxiety in the first place. If not resolved they will eventually cause neurosis, and eventually the ability to function normally.

By the way, a well trained therapist, will be aware of the fact that you are not being open and honest, and in many cases will recommend someone else. Developing trust is most important in any therapeutic relationship. Please remember we are non judgmental, and objective in our thinking.  

Answer 4

Not every little detail, but I share alot.  If I feel the need to say something, I will.

My first therapist didn't help me, so I looked for another and that therapist has helped me overcome alot.

Answer 5

You can't heal from what you don't share.

but

When my worker's Comp disability case went before the judge,

they pulled out some obscure, embarrassing disclosures I'd made in the Psychiatrist's office.    And I lost my case.

It's OK with me now though, I'd rather be healed within from what I shared.   Even if I can't work and don't have an income.

Answer 6

Not sacred but I am afraid if I tell my therapist i smoke pot she won't work with me. I tell her ALMOST everything else. Sometimes I tell her what she wants to hear.

Those suicide hotlines are a JOKE. Sometimes you're on hold for 20 minutes. I wonder how many people have killed themselves b/c no 1 was around to help them or they were "too busy". I don't care if it's "rational" or not. If some kills themselves & was trying to get help & an crisis hotline operator doesn't do something it's their fault too. Then they can only talk to you for 10 minutes & they really are NO help unless you're in a BIG emergency like you've just been beaten or raped in which case a smart person would call 911.

Answer 7

It's a processes FG  and it's establishing a relationship with somebody that you are going have to allow access to your private nooks and crannies in order to resolve your issues.

In some ways it's like surgery w/o anesthesia in that you sometimes have to hurt before you can heal

Did I allow my therapists total access to all my nooks and crannies ?No But as time went on more trust was established between us and I opened up more and allowed more detailed exploration of my rather complex psyche

Should you open up completely on your first couple of visits ?Of course not .

However once you have decided that your therapist is the right person to be working with you and your issues ,then holding back too much info is counter productive

Ultimately in order to get well you have to crawl into that dark cave , confront your demons , wrestle with them as much as you have to and then walk back out into the sunlight as a  whole person

Is it an easy thing to do? Not by any stretch of the imagination

Is it worth doing ? Absolutely  

Answer 8

If it comes up for you during your therapy as a pertinent item then sharing it would be the wise thing to do as it may be the key to getting well.

Answer 9

Yea i tell stuff to my therapist. One time i was suicidal and told be therapist and he helped me alot. Sometimes though i just talk to him. It depends.

Answer 10

Its up to you,personal choice, i tell her most things but not everything in my life so i can keep that line of personal life, but if you don't open up enough its hard to form a theraputic relationship [which feels much like a friendship] and build that trust to make recovery faster and stronger..I also tell my therapist more than i tell friends and family because she has a more in-deph understanding of my thinking..you just have to find a happy median..one where you feel you have control on what you say but you feel enough trust to open up to the issues.I think you will do fine,good luck..therapy is great

Answer 11

Not EVERYTHING, but things i want to talk about with her. You dont have to share everything, sometimes thats not the right way.