Question for second time mummys? jealousy question?

Question

hello!,I'm currently 21.4 days pregnant and i already have a gorgeous 3&1/2 year old daughter...she has been fine about baby connor coming into our family after christmas up until today when we mentioned our family holiday were planning for easter...we told her we were taking her to sea world& movie world &dream world and we told her all about what we had planned and she was getting really excited UNTIL her dad said to her...."it will be your first holiday with your new baby brother" She said NO! connor cant come only mummy daddy and katelyn and we explained connor would be coming and she started crying saying i only want mummy and daddy..no connor i don't love connor i want him to stay in your tummy forever i don't like him! We both explained that having connor didn't mean we were going to love her any less and how we will always be the same mummy and daddy and we'll do the same things with her but she was so upset and angry that she didn't want to hear it!! I know this is very common but i'd really like to hear someone tell me it passes eventually! we had to work very hard to get pregnant with katelyn and the same with this baby.....i just want her to be as happy as we are!!

Answer 1

Welcome to sibling rivalry.  It is all about your attention.  It will get better as your children get older and understand more but sibling rivalry never really goes away.

Answer 2

For a while my son was saying that he didn't want his sister to come out of my tummy but after she did and he got to see her it has been nothing but love.  I think sometimes they get scared about how things are going to change and it is so unknown that they have a hard time dealing with it.  My son was also very scared as to how his sister was going to come out of my tummy (he thought I was going to get hurt) so he wanted her to stay in an extra long time.  She will adjust - give her time.

Answer 3

You're 21.4 days pregnant and you already know it's Connor? You could try cooling it for a while, but trying to include her as much as possible in things like planning Baby's room.Another common suggestion.is to give her a present fom the new baby when the time comes and to make some special Mummy and Katlyn only times now and after the baby comes.

Answer 4

My two sons are 4 years apart.  I delayed telling my son about the new baby for as long as possible.  At 3 1/2 they have no concept of time and 9 months is a long time.  When I was starting to show we explained that there was a baby growing in Mommy's tummy and that the baby was looking forward to having a big brother.  We did not know what we were having.  We talked about "our" baby and talked about what a good big brother he would be.  He helped pick out some things for the baby, we had most of what we needed.  He used to rub and kiss my belly and blow kisses down my mouth to his baby.  When the big day arrived, I had a gift packed in my bag for the baby to give to his big brother at the hospital.  My mom had my older son and before she brought him to the hospital she told him that the baby was born and it was a boy.  They stopped at the store and he picked out a gift for his new little brother.  He even got to hold his brother (with a little help).  By including him early, it seemed to help him adjust better.  Best wishes.

Answer 5

Time heals everything.