Question for the ladies

Question

most girls dream of their wedding for years. here's what I wanna know. are they dreaming of the white dress, cake, church, and all the money they spend for something that lasts for only a few hours? or are they dreaming of the commitment and sacrifice that a marriage takes?

Answer 1

we dream of the cake the dress saying i do...the wedding night...the honeymoon......and changing our last names......also....being able to wake up to the same person everyday and share a home with the same person...maybe one day have a kid with that person...its just exciting to think about

Answer 2

In all honesty I think it varies by the woman and also depending on the age of the woman. I'm 27 now and 5 or 10 years ago I could have told you exactly how I wanted my wedding and just liked the idea of prince charming on taking me away. Now I have no idea of the wedding but I have been looking at what the commitment will take stays really big on my mind and the sacrifices and all the work that takes to make a marriage work. And my boyfriend finds it hard to believe I don't know the first detail I about how the wedding should be, but believe me I have thought of everything that it will take to make a marriage survive and be successful.

Answer 3

We dream about the special day each in a different way. This is the biggest day in our lifes...celebrating love...the only day you'll be a REAL princess...We want to feel special and beautiful FOR OUR HUSBAND to be!

Answer 4

Yes.  Certainly the love and lifetime of dreamy fairy tale happiness are part of it, but the wedding itself is the fantasy because it's like being a princess for a day.  The bride is the center of attention and everything is beautiful and special.

Answer 5

the party! duh, tho i never have ever dreamed of a wedding

Answer 6

when they dream about their weddings at a younger age, its all about the dress, the cake, and the guy.  When they get closer to getting married its about both.

Answer 7

i think they dream of that "fairytale ending" but not actually knowing what it is. so they jump into it without having some foresight. i def think that being 18 and getting married is no way to go, people have to figure out who they are before jumping into that kind of situation, im 23 and still dont think im totally ready. but i think in a way girls are just wanting the fairy tale also, they wanna be the princess and have everybody concentrate on them. they marry the first guy thats nice to them though and thats no way to live life, and usually they are the marriages that have a 70 percent divorce rate

Answer 8

THE WORKS !

marriage is , WOW !  

Answer 9

Well, I think thats two different things actually.

Thinking about my wedding, is like thinking about the cakes and the balloons and flowers. But thinking about MARRIAGE is different. Marriage isn't just the wedding ceremony, but the commitment and love that goes into it. A wedding is what we dream about because if we have our dream wedding, we feel like we're going to have a perfect marriage.

Hope this helped! :D

Answer 10

Honestly, I dream more of the time I will have with that one person than the wedding. I've thought about why women always talk about dreaming their wedding to be that way since they were children and such, but I haven't really thought of that.

Answer 11

I think a lot of young girls dream of a Prince Charming-like man, and a perfect wedding.

I think most women dream of a wonderful, but not always charming, man who will love cherish, and commit to them.

Answer 12

most woman dream about that special day becuase of the person they are going to spend the rest of their lives wit

and just to share that special moment wit their other loved ones

Answer 13

well, to be honest if i had my way I would elope with my fiancee and get married just the two of us and throw a huge party when we get back.

To me its about the commitement and sacrifce..and spending the rest of my life with the man I love.

Answer 14

Bitter about weddings much?

My wedding was just 2 weeks ago, and we certainly didn't break the bank. My husband and I say marriage is a verb - we even had the pastor stress this at our ceremony. So I'm guessing we've thought it through a little.

Good luck on finding a girl who won't go overboard with the money and knows what it takes to make a marriage work...and who can put up with a grumpy butt like you, haha.

Answer 15

I didn't dream about either. I don't think girls should be generalized that way.

Answer 16

uhm.... girls dont really dream of their wedding. we just use it as an exuse 2 get wat we want =]

help apprechiated,

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Answer 17

Younger girls probably think about the pretty gown, the tiara and getting to play princess for a whole day. When you mature and age a little and you meet ''the one,'' then it becomes mostly about the importance of marriage, what marriage means and what the future together as husband and wife holds. I mean...a girl still wants to look and feel like a princess but when you grow up, it all means so much more. If any of that made sense?

Answer 18

the commitment and sacrifice, all the rest just comes with it ;)

Answer 19

You know...as a woman, i've never dreamed much of the wite dress, cake, tons of people, etc....for me, i've always just dreamt of spending my life with someone. dream that my wedding day finally means i will have someone to share my life with forever. a partner, a companion, a lover....I don't care if my wedding is done in t-shirt and jeans...or some fancy theme...all i have ever dreamt about is having that one and only, and knowing we are a part of each other for life.  

Answer 20

im dreaming of both, whats the point of spending all that money for something thats going to last for a couple of months???

Answer 21

When I was a little girl I dreamed of being a princess for a day in a wedding dress.

As I grew up and grew wiser I dreamed of finding the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, the commitment side of it.

Dreams change as people change.

Answer 22

both...ever girl want to see themselves in their white dress, beautiful hall and cake and see the charming prince whom she gets to spend her life with

Answer 23

Girls dream of the white dress, cake and decorations.

Women dream of the commitment and sacrifice.

Answer 24

It really depends on the person. I won't tell you how young I was when I married and I totally didn't care about any of the 'trappings' that are so important to many other girls . I'm a hopeless romantic though,so I work differently.

I got divorced, don't marry when you're so young  (hope you see this!).

Answer 25

the dress and everything but then later they stat thinking about the guy and how their life will pan out

Answer 26

I think the girls who dream about their weddings picture the pretty dress and the party and all their friends and all the attention and beauty of the day.  I don't think it's possible that they can conceive of the work it takes to have a healthy marriage.

Some of those girls and their husbands will figure it out on the way.  And some of them will divorce.  A lot of people are really naive when they marry.  It's unfortunate, but sometimes that's what helps them learn.  (Although inevitably, some will never learn.)

BTW - never dreamt about my wedding.  I just have nightmares over planning it now.  :P

Answer 27

the dress and cake most likely

cuz if they knew the sacrifices ....the dress and cake definately:P

Answer 28

I guess when you are young (like 5) you dream of the dress, because you don't really understand what a marriage is, all you would think about is the day itself and the dress, because every little girl wants to look like a princess.  However, when you get older you come to understand that it is not all about the wedding day, and that marriage takes hard work.  I would hope that by the time you actually get married you would understand fully what it is all about.  That does not mean you can't look forward to having a beautiful day and wonderful dress, it just means that you can look beyond that.

Answer 29

When you are a little girl, wedding events look like the most fairytale event one could ever want to go through.  Being older now, wiser, having had helped other people plan their weddings(one of them being the MOH to a wedding this month), I would much rather prefer the latter.  The commitment and compatibility are much more preferred over the glitz and glamor.  Eloping sounds so much more easier, simpler, cheaper, and stress free.  If I didn't have a big family, I sure would do that.

Weddings are an "to each, their own," type of event.  The style, the time, the effort, the money,.... all reflect the couples tastes.  Sometimes one of the couple throws more or less than the other significant other.  Depending on who pays for the wedding this can be  very frustrating on the couple and the families.  This can be a test to how some issues will be resolved in the marriage.  Good Luck if your going through it!

Answer 30

Many girls fantasize about their dress and hair and shoes because girls tend to worry about all of that stuff.

They want that day to be perfect.

But down the road, reality sets in and i believe that they focus more on commitment and such;]

Hope this helped.

Answer 31

I never had that dream nor plan to get married.