Question for those who are friends/allies of those who are LGBT?

Question

I'm a straight woman who sings in a L*****n/feminist chorus (Amasong) and thus, has become really good friends with some of the lesbians in the group (and I am totally supportive of those who are LGBT). I absolutely love being part of the group and feel it to be such a huge honor to know the amazing women in it. Needless to say, I'm totally supportive of those who are LGBT, do not believe that their sexual orientation is a choice---it's just a part of who they are as human beings, would love for them to have equal rights, be accepted in all places of worship, etc.

As a result, I've found that I have much more of a tendency to goof off or "let my hair down" when being with these women. We all flirt with each other in a really fun way and really just have a good time. I've been finding that I'm not so much like this around other straight people--although I do have really good and meaningful relationships with them too.

Has anyone else who is straight (or is friends with someone who is) experienced this? What's your view on this type of situation with others? I'm totally curious about this. Thanks!

Answer 1

omg yes same thing with me!

im straight and i talk to this one girl a lot

because shes fun and shes bi

but with other girls i'm not like that

its nice to know i'm not the only one! :]

Answer 2

is this your life story or wat? shorten the question for people to answer

Answer 3

I think that with g*y guys I am a bit more comfortable-- I can talk to them about girly things, and I don't have to worry about them trying anything sexual with me. It's nie to have a male friend that's not going to be a "threat" and that I can totally, happily be comfortable and have fun with.  

Answer 4

One of the things you are finding out about lesbians is that they do not really bother with conforming to the rules of society, probably because society is not welcoming to lesbians. The wonderful thing is that we do not have a problem relaxing and having a good time, while straight women who conform to society are a bit more stiff.

I am happy for you.

Answer 5

lol i wish my dad sore it like that

Answer 6

Why thank you for your support of us!! I find that sometimes my straight friends are more comfortable coming to me about issues they may be having and any things they call into question about their sexuality. But since I'm g*y I'm inherently more happy, physical and just more fun around my fellow g*y guys because we understand one another. I love being around my guys because we can talk about anything and have it be fine and can just be ourselves. I personally can't talk to women the way I can talk to and trust other guys. We just understand one another on a different level even if they're straight. So yeah I quite often do experience this and think its just cool and tight. Its nice to recognized as equals and treated with respect.  

Answer 7

This could just be liking the person for who they are and whatever, but you may also be bi-curious as well