Question for those who are married/engaged or in a couple.?

Question

My BFF is in a relationship with a man she does not love. ( she has said so). And when i ask her why she states its better than being alone and since she can't be with her childs daddy, this guy is "good enough".

So, my question is , do you love the one you're with BECAUSE you can't be with the one you love?

Answer 1

Your friend is beyond pathetic. Too bad they don't offer classes on how to be a real woman. Oh, well, from sound of it she'd flunk out anyway.

Answer 2

No, I am with the person I am because I love them.  I have been with him for three years and I truly believe I will always love him and stay devoted to him. =)

That sucks your friend is with a man she doesn't love but I know people will settle so they will not have to live their lives alone.

Answer 3

of course not. i have the best, i could have anyone i wanted and i didn't even want to get married on the first place - was dating and having fun. but when i met him i knew there is no one better and i want to spend the rest of my life with him. and i am blind to other men. why want a cheap old ford if u have brand new ferrari?

Answer 4

I'm with the one I love, because she is the only person ive ever been with that can make me happy when i am sad

Answer 5

sorry to tell you this, but your friend is co dependent. if you cannot be with who you love. then it is better to wait till you find love. not be with someone cause you dont wanna be alone!

Answer 6

I think every now and then we feel like we don't love our spouse.  However, this is not always the case.  Yes, sometimes we could think that we love someone else that we cannot be with, but if you dwell on that thought, then it's going to be difficult to continue loving the man you're with.  It's like the song says, if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with.  

It's always easy to think that we can love someone, but it's easier to stick with someone who you know loves you.  

Answer 7

no . but many people do this . she will find someone one day and this one will be gone . she just doesnt want to be alone . which is what alot of us go thru . being alone is no fun . so i guess better to just be with  someone to have a person to talk too . . But she isnt doing the other person right at all . and everything you do comes back on you later in life so she needs to be careful hate to see her meet someone and be in luv . and him just be there till he can find someone else .  

Answer 8

I love my husband!! He's the one I want now & forever!!

Answer 9

i love the one i'm with...he is the one i love.

Answer 10

That's just sad.

I'm with the man that I am madly in love with.  Prior to him, I was single - by choice - because every other man that I met wasn't 'good enough'.

Answer 11

I love the one I'm with because I love the one I'm with. There is no other. I chose to remain alone after my first marriage ended for 9 years before I started dating my husband. Good enough is not good enough for me. Rather be alone.

Answer 12

i am with the one im with because he is the one i love . i would never settle for someone who is just good enough and she shouldn't either its not fair to him  

Answer 13

I agree with the fact that you friend is co dependent. Tell her that she needs to face herself and her own feelings instead of hiding in a relationship.  This man is a security blanket and she needs to let go before she loses herself.  A man and woman should be together to strengthen eachother after they each know themselves.  This relationship you are describing is not healthy.  Tell her and don't sugarcoat anything. Comfort in a relationship does not equal true happiness and she will not grow as a person.