Question for those who overweight/obese (or formerly overweight)?

Question

I'm not directing this question as an insult, but I'd much rather hear from someone with personal experience. As someone who is overweight, husky, obese, or even just a little chubby (or were any of those at one point in time in your life), would you say people treat you differently or look down upon you? How are you usually treated when it comes to finding a date or even dealing with everyday people? Do people often stare or give you dirty looks? Or if you were formerly overweight, would you say people have treated you differently than they do now?

I gained a few pounds myself lately (not exactly obese but I'm not happy about it) and I was overweight a few years ago, so I guess this is my way of looking to hear from others' experience who have been through the same thing or similar things. Thanks. = )

Answer 1

aw man..when i was fat,all the guys made fun of me and stuff...now tht i lost like...50 somethin pounds,the same guys who were making fun of me are tryna talk to me...so yeah..you DEFFFF get treated differently,and ppl are mean and laugh,and they dont think that you see them,but you do and its so horrible =/

Answer 2

I would say when it comes to how people treat you when you are large, YMMV.  There are people who seem to have nothing but trouble and rejection, and others who don't...or a mixed bag.  

For me, I've found that it really didn't matter. When I was thin, my life wasn't perfect. There were still people who didn't treat me right. My husband still left me despite the fact that I was 125 lbs and modeling...even after my weight dropped down to 100 lbs, I still wasn't univerally accepted or loved.  Know why? Cuz I was too darn busy worrying about what others thought.

Around the time I turned 37, I began to gain weight.  I wasn't thrilled about it, but I just went about my business.  It was also around that time that people seemed to not be so critical, and men began to notice me more and ask me out. At age 40, I was around 210 lbs...if the media is to be believed, I should've been shunned, unwanted because of my 'obese state'... yet for me, it was like getting a re-birth. My daughter graduated high school, I met the man who is now my boyfriend, I moved to a new town, started a job that made more money.  At age 42, I went back into plus size modeling.  

By age 45, I was nearly 235 lbs despite all my efforts to diet and exercise...oh dear!  But guess what? I found that it was a case of mind of matter, if you don't mind...it doesn't matter.  My man has stayed with me, and has been a real sweetie.. and he actually prefers me this way over pictures he saw of me when I was so tiny in my 20s. My daughter asked me if I had been ill back then because I was "too skinny."  It was when I was 45 y/o that I got flirted with by a famous celebrity (yes, true story!), and he made a risque comment about "my girlz"...and he's not the only one who's done that. I went from being ignored in my skinni-minni early 30s to being asked out several times a week (but I always say no cuz I'm happy with my honey)!  I've have serious come-ons and propositions from men ranging from college age to well into their 70s, and this has happened whether I'm home or when I travel!  Know why?  Cuz I'm not so self-conscious anymore, and I no longer care what others think.  Yes, it took 100 lbs and two decades, but I finally got comfortable in my own skin...yes, I do exercise daily (commute by bicycle 7 miles a day, aerobics, and Middle Eastern dance), I watch what I eat (semi-vegetarian).

As I approach 50, I know it's more than likely I will NEVER be as thin as I was when I was 21...but I also know life isn't only for the thin and model-looking amongts us.  So do what you gotta do, but know what's inside counts more than what you look like...and then get out there and enjoy life and surround yourself with people who accept you unconditionally for who you are...and ignore the haters...that will make all the difference in the world!

Answer 3

my horomones have made me thinner now,and so much proposed .

Answer 4

yeah i know what you have been through

last year in 8th grade I was chubbier and now im taller so I guess im skinnier now and im taking PE thats really helping me a lot and dont eat lunch so im on my way to be more skinny

Yeah so now im in 9th grade this senior guy likes me already and this is like the 1 week and I have more friends

it funny cuz I always thought id be ugly and nobody would want to date me

and now im pretty