Question open to anyone, parent vs. child....?

Question

Hey, I'm a fifteen year old and there are a lot of family things that I'm just not sure about. I had a question and I'm willing to hear anyone's opinion.

When two people get married....or get together, they do it because they love each other, or...er, they are supposed to. What about when they decide to have a kid? What happens?!!Do they love the kids more than they love their spouse or partner? So they put more importance in the kid? If they do, does that mean they love each other less? Do they tend to love each other less once they have a child?

I don't ever want my spouse to care about anyone more than they care about me!! Even out own child. I don't know if that sounds horribly selfish, but that's just how I feel.....

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Answer 1

Its a different kind of love. Just think about it, you want to have s*x with your husband/wife but not your kids. Just think of it that way... its just a different type of love that you will have for your children.  

Answer 2

I am a mother of two and i love my husband very much and no les then i did before maybe more but i love my children so much but in a different way and i suppose i love them more they always come first and my husband knows that and i hope and pray to god that he loves them more then he does me i could not be with anyone that would love me more then their kids that is just wrong you are young and when you are older you will understand mostly the day you hold your first child right now thinking that way is selfish but then again you have no kids and you will never understand this feeling until you are older and you have some kids of your own you will change you mind and if you don't then there will be a problem with your relationship  with your boyfriend believe it or not i do wish you luck

Answer 3

you should think of your family's love as a big circle. think a of a circle, with you and your spouse spaced equidistant. now, imagine a child being added to the circle, while maintaining the same distance between each other as before. the circle expands, doesnt it? by adding a child to a family, it doesn't take away love, it just adds more. :)

Answer 4

Married people love each other or they would not have gotten married.  When they have a baby, that new born baby needs a lot of attention.  It's up to both parents to love and care for the child.  

Children need their parents at every stage of their lives.  There is so much a child needs to learn and each year a child can learn a Little more.  A child needs for the parents to play with them and teach them, talk to them, listen to them and love them.

Just because you love and care for your child does not mean that husbands and wives stop loving each other.  A child most of the time brings a married couple even closer together.

There are many different kinds of love, a love for a parent is different than the love of your spouse.  The Love of your spouse is different than the love you have for a child.  A friends love is a different kind of love.

So by loving some one does not mean that you love your spouse or child more, you love them both in a different way.  

Blessings

Answer 5

you love your partner so much you want to do the most intimate thing with each other and create a person that is part of both of you. and the love you have for your partner is a entirely different love you have for your spouse, you can't compare the two

Answer 6

no i wouldnt want my bf loving some1 more then me either!

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he'll love u and ur baby the same he loves u lik inlove and he loves the baby cause its his flesh and blood u understand?