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Question regarding celibacy and s*x?

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Ok, this is highly personal, bear with me. It's a little embarrassing to write but anyway though.

I am a woman in my mid 20s and have been celibate for some time now by choice. I am not in a relationship and I don't give it up to the men I date. I'm not interested in one night stands and when I stopped my sexual activity, I said the next time will be with a guy that I love. Well, I have not fallen in love. But I do have needs though.

I am however thinking of "getting some" this weekend from a guy down the street. I've known him for awhile and we're going to hang out. I just wonder if I will feel guilty after the fact because I have been holding out so long only to give in. We're not in a relationship and I'm not interested in one. Anyway, I'm super nervous but I want to do this. What should I do about my nervousness? I don't know if it's because I haven't been intimate with anyone in awhile? Has anyone else ever experienced something similar? Going from celibacy and back?

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  1. if u have waited this long why would u want 2 throw it away with someone that means nothing 2 u? from experience let me tell u its worth the wait. wait 4 the one u dont want 2 live without. the one u want 2 marry. it will def be worth the wait.


  2. I think that you should just be careful. Maybe have a condom or condoms with you.

    And you should be fine. Just take it as it comes. Don't seem to pushy and needy. And just be yourself. Guys love that - be easy and give him little smiles and talk a lot. About him, about yourself.

    The nervousness will not go away until you relax and just be comfortable and don't expect too much.

    Good Luck!


  3. You need to sort out your reasons on celibacy.

    It can go either way: You can take it bad or it won't bother you.

    My intake is to not do anything you are questioning until you are sure. It all falls back on your reasons and how it makes you feel to have celibacy or to have s*x.

    Also the other things to think about. If you are not in a relationship with him, you do not have desire to, then that can cause an issue. Issues that have happened in the past to others is: feelings develop by either one of the party involved, situation arises like pregnancy or STD, to the emotional withdrawal on one another (weird around each-other or even the party will now "expect" s*x as a form of friends with benefit relationship).

    So, just look into it further deep within your heart and mind.

    If you have needs though, like any human being, go toy shopping :P

  4. just do it you probably just need a drink or two to relax you a little that's all so why you pick this guy?  i say he is a lucky dude does he know he is going to get lucky this weekend?

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