Question regarding past adoption.?

Question

Shortly after I was born I was put in a foster home, my mom knew she wouldn’t be able to care for me so before I was even born she began looking for a new home for me. In other words I never lived with my biological mom. The same year that I was put in the foster home I was adopted. I have not yet decided to contact my biological parents but as I was looking through some paper at my parent’s house and found one regarding the change of my name. It basically said that Baby Boy (Last name was here)’s name has been changed to my current name now. I was wondering if this might be my real last name of if it was just a name like Jane Doe or something the foster home came up with?

Answer 1

Your real last name is the name your parents gave you, you know, the ones who stuck around, provided you a home, and gave you unconditional love? Those ones. I understand curiosity, but take it from me, it's not always so wonderful finding your biological forbears. I did find mine and frankly, they've been nothing but a disappointment. They made the right decision when they gave me up. I should have let sleeping dogs lay.

Answer 2

It probably is you biological mother's last name.  Can you ask your parents?  

I wish you luck if you decide to contact your biological family.

Answer 3

The chances are very good that the last name listed on your adoption order is your birth name. Depending on when and where you were born though. In some areas new light is currently being shed on the falsifications of adoption records including fake names being put on birth certificates, birth registrations and adoption orders.

That being said the last name on the order can not be your foster parent's as they would have had no legal ties to you. If it was a Jane Doe situation, such as an abandonment, they usually use "Doe" as the last name or ammend all papers to show the adopted surname once the adoption has been made final.

Answer 4

It is most likely your last name from your n-mother. If you decide to go this route and find your parents, make sure you are emtionally ready for it. Whatever the outcome you have to be prepared. Will your adopted parents be supportive in finding your n-mother and n-father. i know my parents were and i found my family. It was nice to know where i came from, but truthfully in the end it was best i didn't meet them. I'm not saying this will happen in your case, because each situtation is different. Just know this whatever the outcome is, you will grow as a person because of it.

Answer 5

Dont listen to that guy .  He knows nothing. You have every right to find out where you come from! I bet that last name you found was probably your real last name.  You could try doing a search with that name and seeing what you come up with. Have you tried asking your adoptive parents if they have any information they could give you?  Its kind of scary to ask, I know I had to do it.  But my mom had SO much info, she had both my nmom and my ndads name.

Anyway if you need some help you can email me @ [e-mail] and check out www.adultadoptees.org

Answer 6

yea it was your birth name. when i found my birthmother i got to see my paperwork and my said 'baby girl ....'

it was my birthmothers last name. that is still legal paperwork, so they cant just make up a name.

i found both my birthparents and it was fantastic for me. as you see by the first reader it isnt always like that. so hope for the best but prepare yourself for the worst.

good luck to you, i can only hope you have a positive experience like i did.

Answer 7

Yes, that probably was your original last name...so it's probably your n-mother's last name.

When I reunited with my n-mother, she gave me the little card that was on my bassinet in the hospital.  It said "Baby Girl R..."  The R... was her last name at the time of my birth, and would have been my last name too.

Just an aside...you have to have had a name before you were adopted, it is probably your n-mother's last name, but they have to put something on your original birth certificate.  Just remember that...

When you make the decision to contact your n-parents, good luck.  I hope you are successful.