Questions about legality of marriage.?

Question

I want to get legally married. Paperwork and all. My boyfriend does not want to get married in the states eyes. He says he will do the ceremony, but doesn't want to "strap himself to another person".

If we go and have a ceremony and such, but don't do the paperwork, are we still married?

Would I qualify for his benefits? or do we have to do all the paperwork?

Could we claim taxes together? Thanks so much for your input.

I'm assuming no, but I thought I would ask anyway.

Answer 1

You would not be considered married, would not qualify for his benefits, would not be able to claim taxes together... basically, it would be the same as you not being married. You have to do all the paperwork.

Answer 2

The common law marriage laws are different in every state.  Some states don't even recognize common law marriages.  For the ones that do, it's typically required that you present yourselves as husband and wife and live as such for a certain number of years before a common law marriage will be recognized.  Generally speaking, just having a ceremony that doesn't involve a marriage license won't make you legally married.  You'll need to contact the probate court in your state/area to find out what the laws are regarding common law marriage to find out what is required.  Until you're legally married with a license or in a recognized common law marriage, you won't qualify for his benefits and you won't be able to file taxes jointly as husband and wife.

Answer 3

You will not be married unless you do the paperwork.  No benefits. no joint taxes, no rights whatsoever.  Unless your state recognizes the creation of a common-law marriage.  If that is the case, you both will need to hold yourselves out as husband and wife for a period of 7 years, and then the state will recognize you as married.  In my state (NC) you cannot create a common-law marriage, but if you are considered common-law married in another state and move to NC, the state will recognize your marriage as legal.  Check the general statutes of your state and see what the requirements are for marriage, both legal and common-law.  If all else fails, call the Register of Deeds office...they are the ones that issue marriage licenses, so someone there will be able to tell you about common-law in your state.  

Answer 4

The only way to legally be married without the paperwork is living together and filing a joint tax return for 7 years.  Then you are bound.   According to the IRS at least.

Answer 5

No you won't qualify for his benefits, nor claim taxes together, unless you use fraud. Then you will be caught and will not have to worry where you will be living for a few years, because you will be guests of the government.

If he won't sign a marriage license application, nor want to be "strapped to another person" then he does not want to get married, period. You need to get away from this loser, who listens to his momma, who hasn't been successful in marriage either.

sp note;

An unmarried couple cannot file a joint return and will have to figure out how to divide those tax benefits. If it makes more economic sense for one party to claim the deductions, the other should be compensated in some other way, such as by being responsible for fewer household expenses.

http://family.findlaw.com/living-togethe...

There are five different filing statuses: 1. Single 2. Married filing jointly 3. Married filing separately 4. Head of household 5. Qualifying widow(er) with dependent child.

Answer 6

I would find a different man. Using the words "strap himself to another person" is a major red flag. You will never be married to him, spiritually or legally. I'd find someone with your interests and ambitions and drop this jackass.

Answer 7

No, you won't be legally married. Why do you want to be married to someone who doesn't want to be strapped to another person? Sounds like he wants to keep his options open, and might duck out on you when the going gets tough. Find someone who will stick with you, legally and otherwise.

Answer 8

you wont be married. if you do the paper work after you get you marriage license they give you 60 days untill it exspires you have to have the ceremony or you wont be married

Answer 9

This sounds fishy.  You should be insulted because what he said is a slap in the face and disrespectful.  Sounds like this jerk has something to hide.  Are you willing to just be his live in housemate? If you are willing to go along with it then you are wasting your life to an inconsiderate pig.  Quit being a DOORMAT!  Look into his background through his social security # to see if he has a wife or a criminal background.  If he wont give you info then you are stupid to fall for this charade of a "relationship". As far as tricking him, you are really dumb to want a man in your life living a lie.  This could turn dangerous.