My husband and I are considering the adoption of an older child. We’ve read through a good many “horror†stories and the usual collection of dire warnings that ‘these kids won’t behave in a way similar to biological children.’
In our case, though, we neither expect nor desire a blank slate. When we married, we became a family – and this, despite our both having different upbringings and so on. So, too, with a child who enters our lives with a developed personality and a set of expectations.
My question is this: what is the best way to integrate an older child into our family? We want to acknowledge the kid’s prior experiences.
I guess what we really want to know is, can such adoptions be successful? By “successâ€Â, we mean of course that the child feels like part of the family, and is behaving in a socially acceptable manner.
If you were an older adoptee, what sorts of things would have helped you fit into a family?
Tags: