Questions about the girl that posted something about abortion a couple hours ago????

Question

this is the link http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhDATbJmThjQWQEUBbCukziA7hR.;_ylv=3?qid=20080424162527AAWdk4l

do you agree with her views?

are you for abortion or against it?

do you think she was right in posting this?

and also what do you think about what she had to say?

(just curious i stumbled across this post and it caught my attention)

Answer 1

against.

it's not a woman's choice! a woman's choice lies in choosing to have s*x when they arent ready to be a mother. all this anti abortion c**p is people was never about preserving a woman's freedom or trying to "force" her to give birth. it's about people not wanting to take responsibility for their own actions. nowadays, for those looking for a quick fix to a mistake, or someone to blame, if they kick up enough dust and whine enough, they will get their way.  hardly anyone ever steps up and accpets the consequences stemming from an irresponsible choice. adoption isnt the answer either. not having s*x if you dont want babies is.

Answer 2

Do I agree with her views?

No. I think she sounds rather pushy.

Am I for or against abortion?

I am for abortion. Having known people who have done it, I know that is not a descision to be taken lightly. I also know that complications during pregnancy has forced people to have an abortion in later pregnancy. I think its a right and is no one elses buisiness. I think people who have never been in that situation should shut up and stop judging. The thing is, is that people see abortion as just plain and simple "baby killing". Its a tabloid thing in my eyes.

Do I think she was right posting it?

In a way then yes, she is obviously concerned for her friend, but I dont agree with the pushy attitude that comes across.

My question is........Abortion and adoption, How do you think they come under the same catagory?

Answer 3

This is an open forum, so as long as its not obscene she was right to post anything she wanted.

As for the Abortion part, I think it is a womans decision. So many people are preaching adoption, which I get is a wonderful and beautiful thing. But for women who are not ready for a pregnancy, who can not handle the emotional and physical stress; they should be able to decide what they want to do with their bodies.

Answer 4

Any person has the right to express their views (regardless of how insane or stupid someone else may find them to be).

I personally feel that a woman has the right to chose what to do with her body.  I also am against abortion.  For me, once conception has happened, your body is being shared with another human being.  That human being is unable to voice their opinion on life.  You have to do that for them.

Also, to the ones preaching that you should be responsible enough to abstain until ready or willing to parent, that is not always the case.  Rape victims do not get a choice.  Incest and molestation victims do not get a choice.

While I understand that pregnancy and adoption is very taxing physically and emotionally, an abortion is no different.  The only real difference between the two is that with an abortion, it is a permanent decision.  There are no do overs, no changing your mind.

Answer 5

This is the adoption section

Abortion is an entirely different subject altogether

Answer 6

Yesterday this issue came up all over the place... Abortion vs. Adoption and the "choices" a woman has when facing and unplanned pregnancy..... To me, these choices have little to do with each other.... at least as far as the Baby is Concerned.

I told my personal story about my own "CHOICE" and all the factors that played into my choice... Simply put:

1) I was the kept and parented unplanned baby of teenagers who grew-up with an extended family filled with adopted cousins, and foster children.

2) He was the adopted infant--not given much information due to the era.

3) We had a wedding date--and 6 months before an unplanned pregnancy.

I told my story about How and Why WE made the choice we did--actually I made the choice I did.... the Third option of choice that can be made when an unplanned baby is on the way. For me it was NOT a choice I have lived with as if nothing had happened....and it wasn't for him either.

I was surprised that I received email from some mothers who chose Adoption instead. You see, I have been very vocal about the fact that I believe No matter what the choice is or was--It is still the choice a woman makes and has to accept and live with....for the rest of her life.

I was surprised that when I shared my story some pointed out that I should still understand I was "coerced" into making the choice I live with. In some ways I suppose that can be used by me to justify the decision I made---and I can see that in many ways the presure, lies and desire for Money played into the people around me---in an effort to Make My Choice acceptable....

*-The baby is just a blob of tissue

*-The clinic made a good deal of money

*-The responsibility of my actions were unaddressed and my choice was minimized.

*-The choice offered were all about Me and my future with little councel given about the blob of tissue being fully considered.

I have been accused of being harsh and unsensitive toward mothers who choose adoption instead. Perhaps, I come off that way given my full life experiences?

But, even as I sit and type this message more then 25 years after I made the choice I did--I KNOW that when it was said and done I made the decsion in the end and I am the only one living who has to accept the choice I made because my baby never had the chance to live.

I do NOT see what happened to me as Coersion even though the father of my baby only gave me one option if I wanted to stay with him. Even though I was lied to by a clinic that had only been legally in business for less then six years and the service I was sold had only been legal for the same amount of time in the United States...

In the End it was My Decision which is part of why I base my feelings about Voluntary Adoption as still the mother's decision. I believe a better decision than I made... and and option that merits far more respect and honor then the alternative I selected.

I see how some might point out that I was lied to--coersed and presured... But, the fact remains I am responsible and no one else. I listened to the imput of those around me, had a secret unplanned baby, a family that would Not have been supportive, and the father was an anrgy upset adopted boy who had his own feelings. As much as all of these issues and other's desires were for me to pick the option I did--It was and always will boil down to the fact I Decided in the end.....

So--yes, I do understand that a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy also faces a bonbardment of information. Adoption was Never presented to me as an option at the clinic... I assume had I gone to the Adoption Agency abortion would have been the ugly sister of choices I was told about... But, my feet entered a different clinic with the same motivations in mind--Money--maybe not as much as the Agency down the road but it was still money all the same...

Even at my age of 18 and under stress with an unplanned baby I understood money motivated the information I was given. I understood that the agency down the road would have stirred me in a different direction...

I understood that I would be offered one point of view behind the door I chose to open.... and what some may view as coersion--was in fact, simply the feelings--opinions and motivations of those around me and I still made and live with the choice I picked...coersion--lies--money and lack of support all equal the decision was In FACT mine.

It would do me no benifit to look back and change my role in this chapter of my life. It will not make me feel better to believe that I was tricked or forced or mislead to take the option that I did. I have tried that---it only made me bitter toward people who REALLY didn't have the choice I did because it was my body which housed the unexpected baby and no one elses.

I have said before that as a mother I cannot accept the fact that anything would seperate me from my baby--Unless it was the choice that I made in the deepest part of my soul. I still believe this... I know in my heart I could have changed my mind--I could have walked down the road and opened the door of a different building...I could have faced the implications of being a single mother...I could have this that and the other....but, I did what I did.

If my Baby could stand before me and ask me Why?  I might want to justify...explain that I had no power--I was scard--I didn't want a baby to live the life I had, and the father didn't want to have his baby live a life dealing with adoption issues--and the clinic wanted my money, lied to me and told me YOU were Nothing...and if I had kept you our life would have been too hard... so...I chose to have You Die...instead of give you life... but, they told me you were nothing...just tissue...so It wasn't my fault....

But, it is my fault I cannot tell my baby why and no matter the situation I was in at the time It WAS my Choice and I have to accept and live with this fact for the rest of my life.

So--I am sorry if it upsets the woman who decided otherwise but, I do still maintain that I believe it is hurtful to cling to the idea that the choice was in the end the mother's to be made and for that child I believe it would be more healing to accept this fact and not ever tell him or her that the decision was otherwise. It is too easy to look back and see why and how we make the choices we do and while I don't have the chance to tell my child why I made my choice If in heaven I do I will still own-up and take responsibility because my child does Not deserve to feel anyone tricked me into murder--or forced me by circumstance--or wanted me for profit enough to make me do anything I was not in the end willing to do...

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Answer 7

i believe this young woman is being intrusive and really needs to get out of the business of controlling another's reproductive health.  pregnancy is difficult, adoption is not a substitute for abortion, and neither should not be forced on anyone.

ETA: the "don't have s*x" morality argument is tired.  if we (as a society) were really concerned about reducing abortion, we would offer comprehensive s*x education, and not restrict access to birth control and emergency contraception. but all it appears is that we are still in the business of punishing women for having s*x.  

ps.  why is this posted in the adoption section?

Answer 8

Do I agree with her views?  No.

Am I for or against abortion?  Frankly, it's never been any of my business.  

Do I think she was right in posting this?  No.  I do think she has a right to her opinion.  And I do think this is an open forum.  But it's a forum in a Q&A format.  Her post wasn't a question, it was a call to arms to badger another poster and try to change her mind.  That's not what Y!A is about, and it violated the TOS.  Further, while she has a right to her views, I think she is wrong.  Ignoring the TOS question, I think her attempt at badgering someone to change that person's views is wrong.  She ought not to have done it, even if she has a "right" to do it.

Answer 9

Your question doesn't belong here either.

This is about ADOPTION in this Section.

Personally I don't think anyone should be getting advice on adoption or abortion on Yahoo Answers !

It should be only a place to discuss.