Questions about your "1st time".?

Question

i had s*x for my 1st time the other night. and it HURT SO BAD!! u have no clue how bad it hurt. i felt like i was getting stabbed. i started cry, not because it was my 1st time. just because it hurt SO MUCH! i don't know if its because my boyfriend is very large (in that area) or what. but it hurt so bad. and i didn't know that i would bleed. but i did. ALOT. like i was on my period. i still am bleeding a bit. does this mean ill always bleed?? does this mean that my hymen is broken? does this mean it will always hurt? i just don't know what to think. i don't know what to do. plz help if u can. thank u SO much.

Answer 1

I am sorry your 1st time wasnt the wonderful experience most people make it out to be! I would say yes your hymen is now no longer intact... you wont always bleed when you have intercourse it was simply the hymen breaking, even though it hurt like h**l it was necessary to allow intercourse to take place.. try and let that experience go a little and remember that intercourse with someone you care about IS wonderful! Oh and please remember the importance of a condom!!!

Answer 2

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what do you want us to do? lol talk to your boyfriend about ittt

Answer 3

Your hymen is broken - the pain and the bleeding.

Tell your boyfriend  

Answer 4

it was not the largeness of your boy friend but his ineptness ,

Answer 5

when u have ur 1st time it hurt like h**l

but when u do it again  tell ur fella to go easy and you wont be sore and no u wont bleed again

Answer 6

dont do it again. never.

Answer 7

That's normal for your first time, You were bleeding because your hymen broke. It's totally normal, no you won't always bleed.

Answer 8

Yes, nervousness and stress especially in young women may result in tight vaginal muscles. It appears to me that the tightness the guys associate with a virgin is due more to the lady being nervous and stressed by the new experience more than size or lack of use. Solution is for the guy to take extra time with foreplay and to observe the first rule of male technique or ICS principle: "It's the clitoris stupid." He must take time gently moving from one level of foreplay to the next from your lips, to your neck, to your b*****s: explain to him the touches that excite you. Finally, he or you will have to involve the stroking of the clitoris (again you may have to teach him) and if possible, he would be wise to let his tongue work a little for him and you. Only after you have climaxed at least once, will your v****a have relaxed and expanded enough to make intercourse possible and and enjoyable.

The above assumes that you both are reasonably compatible in size: that is, if his p***s is large and your v****a is in the average to small range as far a size goes, then even extra foreplay may be required. And it assumes, that you are not mad at him or have some other reason to be uptight with him.

More on size. The partners should match in size for good results and nature that set it up so that most guys are a reasonable match for most women but not all. You have indicated your boy friend is "very large": not just the length (average is 5-7") but also girth (average is 4"-5.5): any thing bigger is big to very big. Vaginas also come in various sizes like penises. Unexcited the average v****a is 2.5-3" across and 4" deep: excited it expands about 50% plus or minus. While a average v****a may expand to accommodate a large p***s there can be difficulty especially with the first attempts. It can feel wonderful at first just sitting in there. But certainly a smallish v****a is going to have a difficult time dealing with a large p***s: in some cases, the large guy will never be able to engage in hard or fast pounding without hurting the cervix and in some cases both partners become sore if it goes on for even a regular length of time. In one case the guy had to wear a donut around the shaft of his p***s so that his p***s did not enter too deeply into his partner and hurt her. These are things that are not good about being a larger guy. Fortunately, most guys are wonderfully average.

A good number of average women may get excited about a larger p***s say on a one night stand; but end up marrying or mating with an average guy.  

Now there may be the case of a large male who mates with an average to small female.  In this case, he and the lady are going to have to learn what will work for them what will not.  What s*x positions allow for less penetration than others.  He wil have to learn to go slow and be more careful than average.   Accommodations such as these and others can go a long way to making less than compatible bodies more compatible.  

In any event, be safe and live and learn and soon pleasure will come.

Answer 9

It sounds to me like you weren't ready. Your hymen is broken if you bleed. My first time hurt too. It shouldn't hurt too many times after that first time.

Answer 10

My first time I spotted heavily for almost two days as well.

It doesn't mean you are going to bleed everytime, just this once...

In order to avoid hurting again, make sure you BOTH get lubed up pretty good next time. K Y Jelly works pretty good, and I heard Wal-Mart is going to be selling it for $4, when their $4 program goes over-the-counter ("Third Phase", which is soon)

Trust me, that will help a LOT.

First times are usually so painful because it's often so awkward, and you just want to get it done... your body doesn't have time to lubricate itself... That's where K Y comes in... It also makes it easier for him to slide in and stretch you out with zero or minimal discomfort...

We all go though that, you'll be fine!

Answer 11

no you won't!  the pain will go away soon.  So no need to worry.

Answer 12

usually when its the first time for a girl, it should be taken slow because it pains a lot when the hymen breaks..i dont think youre going to bleed forever..youll be alright  in a day or two