Questions for teenage moms?

Question

i'm not trying to rag on anybody i just want to understand why this girl at school is pregnant and in middle school (my school is a 6-12 school, i'm a senior in high school). why did you get pregnant? whats your story? what were you thinking? how did you feel when you found out? if you got pregnant young (15 or less) did nobody tell you how to not get pregnant? if they had, did you not care? what kinds of s*x education had you been give? had you had any s*x ed program at all? thanks for your answers.

Answer 1

I was 19 when I had my daughter. But I was out of high school and married. So I don't think I am in the norm with teen pregnancies.

I was still very scared when I found out. But now, I have a lovely daughter who is the joy of my life. My husband is amazing and puts me and our daughter first in his life.  

Answer 2

Alyssa:  Your "answer" is so angry and defensive and hostile...I guess you are one of those unfortunate teen moms?  Sorry but I had to report you for being rude and not answering the question.  

Answer 3

i got pregnant because god wanted it to happen. lets see, i've had the same boyfriend since i can remember. we live together, he asked me to marry him, i of course said yes, we found out a few weeks later i was pregnant. well i certainly didn't get in bed thinking hm i think i feel like getting pregnant. oh and i was on the pill and he wore a condom. safe s*x isn't sure s*x. but anyway, we're both 18, we've had our own house since a year or so ago, we'll be married in a month, and we can actually care for our child. so everyone thumbs down me =)

Answer 4

I totally understand that you are curious, and the it okay. I'd rather you ask then stare at us like we are aliens or something.

i got pregnant at 15, and honestly, when I made the choice to have s*x with my boyfriend, I was not intending to have a baby.

The story: It was 9th grade, March to be exact. Some girl in my class was having a party, and my BF and i decided it would be fun to go. The party was actually pretty lame, so we thought it would be fun to sneak upstairs, and fool around. (This was not our first time) He didn't have any condoms, so I decided, what the h**l, and took the risk. About 6-8 weeks later, I began feeling really weird, so I took a pregnancy test. Sure enough, the goddamn '+' sign showed up.

How did I feel: When the little plus sign popped up, I FREAKED out. I knew my parents would not support this, but i was a firm believer that abortion is not okay. I told my parents, and they sent me to an All girls school for teenage moms.

Education: Yes, I had been warned about the possible consequences of not using protection, but I just figured, what are the chances if I only did it this once. No one had ever told me the chances of getting pregnant if there was no protection, they just told me it could happen.

s*x Ed: Where I live you only  do s*x Ed in grades 9-12. and we hadn't done it yet that year. If we had done it earlier, i most likely would not have had unprotected s*x. I was stupid, and too eager for s*x.

I decided to keep the baby, and ended up living on my own. My parents did not support what I was doing at all. I had a baby girl, Jillian, and I loved her soo much!

15 is too young to be a mother, you are not responsible enough, mature enough, and you are not financially stable.

Tragically, at age 2, Jillian passed away, because of irresponsible actions, a stupid thing like not putting a baby gate at the top of the stairs can make the biggest difference in the world, and at 17, you may not know that.

I hope this helped you. We are not bad people, just a little but stupid. Be nice to the preggo girls in your school, you have no idea how brave they are to actually go to school everyday and face you guys. They are people too, who deserve to be given a chance.

Hope I helped,

Cassie

Answer 5

you are ridiculous.  Unless this is for a school newspaper or something you should smack yourself.  

Let the girls be

Answer 6

I doubt all teen moms PLANNED to get pregnant in high school i know i did not but shut up and mind your own business people make mistakes and i am sure you have made some also!!!!

Answer 7

I was 16 when i got pregnant.. i dont know i think i sub-consciencially wanted a baby becasue i have had s*x ed since i was very young and know s*x makes babies but didnt care much. i also had a bad experience with depo( birth control needle) so i was not willing to try any other forms of b/c.

I was with my bf for 2 yearswhen i got preg and we love eachother very much, we are still togther and ttc #2:)

Answer 8

Well, first of all your school should have some kind of education class set up for this..  Anyways, I am 19 right now and have a 19 month old son, meaning I got pregnant at the end of my Jr year of high school.

Why did you get pregnant?  Totally unintentional.  I used to party (I know, bad idea) a little on the weekends and ended up getting smashed and taken advantage of by my friends older brother (he was 22) who I never would have slept with had I been sober.  

What was I thinking?  I wish I could remember...  But afterwards all I could think was that there was no way I could have a baby.

How did I feel when I found out?  I was absolutely terrified, embarassed, felt trapped.  I didn't tell anyone until I absolutely had to at five months, not even my closest friends.  

I did have s*x education courses, I just never thought something like that would happen to me.  He WAS wearing a condom..  It just happened that way.  

I completely understand why you're curious, because even though I have been there I still don't understand how kids in high school are getting pregnant.  I was extremely lucky and ended up having the best son in the world and happened to meet my dream guy (loves kids, gorgeous, perfect personality for me..) when I moved out of state, and have parents who help me out and awesome friends, but most girls aren't that lucky.  I didn't get picked on when I was pregnant because I was friends with all of the cool guys.  I did lose a few guy friends, though, because they were wierded out by my belly.  We're all good now, though.  I would definately try to be nice to that girl, though, because the other girls in my school got pregnant and were treated terribly..  Guess I just got lucky!  Hope I helped a little!

Answer 9

why did you get pregnant?

it just happened i dunno loll

whats your story?

i was fourteen met this guy he was lovely kind he was 17 and then it just happened as soon as i told him i never seen him again i kept the baby school was the hardest and i had a baby girl that I'm happy with i stayed in school , got an education finished school and now i have a new boyfriend were living together and I'm happy.

what were you thinking?

that's just it i wasn't thinking at all !

how did you feel when you found out?

to be honest i was **** scared crying the works

if you got pregnant young (15 or less) did nobody tell you how to not get pregnant?

oh yeah i learned in school and all but as i say i just wasnt thinking at the time, all the critisism i got from people the looks i got on the street i felt sick how could people be so cruel



if they had, did you not care?

i did and i suppose i just forgot i know it sounds stupid but !

what kinds of s*x education had you been give?

oh the works everything but i was the one who sat at the back of the classroom either asleep or laughing at everything the teacher said.

had you had any s*x ed program at all?

we a teacher who thought us in school every wed or fri  or somthing like that for about six weeks if you have any other questions just email me

Answer 10

My mum had me when he was just gone 16. She was raped. That's all I know

Sorry if I didn't help xoxoxoxox

Edit:

Well I'm sorry that my mum got raped! Wth? Why did I get a thumbs down for that?! ***** a******s..

Answer 11

I commend you for asking these questions.. maybe if rather than the stupid videos that they play in school they should have real life stories like what has been answered here so all those girls that think that can't happen to me, or I am smarter than that... These girls made a mistake the same mistake many of their classmates are making only difference is they weren't as lucky .. teen s*x is like playing roulete.. I was one of those party teens and got lucky not to have gotten pregnant in high school but did right after graduation and lost all of my friends because of it.  

Answer 12

whoa what does that guy mean "let the girls be" as in let them continue having s*x and have babies????? at 12 or 11 or 14??? r u serious he should smack himself!  

Answer 13

well perhaps it was just an accident because horny teenagers don't listen to what they've been told and accidents happen like that cuz it may not have had anything to do with s*x ed or wanting too just horny teenagers and up comes an accident or it could have been for attention or just wanting to go against what she was told it's hard to tell it could have been a one time thing and an accident happened or it could have been planned for her to get attention I've known people have it happen as an accident and as a way to get attention its just really hard to tell.

Answer 14

I don't know her life, that you would need to ask her. But what I do know is, tough road ahead; real life isn't like the movies, you can't hit rewind. Some will tell you great stories about how they are still together...blah, blah...far and few. Stick to school you will go far, and have something to offer your child when you get older (don't depend on taxpayers to carry your burden).

I grew up in an area where this was common (sadly) family/ friends some of the things I heard was "baby's are cute, I want someone to love, we love each other, I want to be a young parent" We have s*x ed., it has a lot to do with parenting also.

Some of my friends who got pregnant young their mothers' had them young also. Some ethnic background are excepting of this, there goal in life was to be a mother without thinking of much else. I fortunately never was a follower, knew from early on the consequences, and just wanted a better life. But whatever, its a vicious cycle, some like to learn the hard way.