Quick question if you adopt a kid and they get to a dunno 12 or 13?

Question

and turn out to be ungrateful little twats you wasted 12 yrs of your life on can you return them?

Answer 1

I know a couple that gave their adopted son back after 16 years of being adopted. He tried burning down a school, raping girls, drugs, alcohol, s*x, and killing someone. Their other son has a masters degree  a beautiful wife and 2 children. He has his own house, and they are happy together. There is such a thing as nature and it does affect an individual. however I still don't agree with them giving him back. It's not right. As far as I'm concerned once you adopt someone it's just like your bio child.

Answer 2

if you have raised them for 12 years why would you want to give up on them. they are starting the teenage years every kid at the age is ungrateful! i am sure you where to!

Answer 3

okay you are a rude and insensitive person. NO, you cannot return them. I was adopted and I think that is the most insensitive thing i've ever heard. And I've heard some pretty insensitive things.

Answer 4

I'm going to take this as a joke.  Because thats what it must really be.

Honestly if you have a biolgoical child who was an ungratefully little twit would you just take them to the state and hand them over?

Answer 5

No moreso than bio kids.  FAce it kids 12 and 13 are sometimes a pain.

I am sure you did this to pot stir though.....

Answer 6

Mrs. Robinson/Sarah C,

Are you done ranting yet today?  You're making a fool of yourself.

Answer 7

yeh ,dump them on some ones doorstep and run like h**l .....LOL

Answer 8

your sick you wanted the kid you keep it. most teen act like that when there young. would you return them?

Answer 9

not me i'm not going to adopt an kid of 13 or12

Answer 10

If you adopted them from birth and was now 12 or 13 then wouldn't it be your fault because you raised them to be that way.

Answer 11

I WISH that had happened.  But then, my adopters SUCKED.  My mother would have taken me in a heartbeat--by then it was in style to have a child as a single woman!

Answer 12

No where in the entire world would let someone like you adopt a child!!!!

Sort yourself out you stupid person!!

Answer 13

oooooooooooh, i get it!  you're a troll!

well, thank goodness.  i thought you actualy wanted kids!  thank god you aren't for real.

please go take your meds, you ill little thing.

Answer 14

Yes as long as you have a reciept and proof of purchase. That is what makes adoptshun so speshul.

Answer 15

You go to court the same way you'd "return" biological children.

All children are ungrateful at 12 -17.  Why should an adopted child be any more grateful than anyone else? I don't get that.

My biological mother who raised me, could have just as easily aborted as my adopted cousin's biological mother...so why should she be any more grateful than I am not to be aborted.

My children are not adopted, but I don't want them to be "grateful" in a sense that I did them a favor by giving birth to them...why should adopted children?

Answer 16

No, not in any legal way....  This kind of action of "returning" a child would generally only come after years of therapy and family services have failed.... Kids usually get a couple of great violent attacks before the state will help the family---and then they get advice to hit the kid or lock them up....

Once the kid takes a knife to the parents neck in the middle of the night there might be a possibility that the placement isn't working...

Legally handled the kid would return to state care on the parents dime...  but, it has nothing to do with adoption because the state care the kids are put in isn't about adoption... it's about families not working out....

Sunday night we are taking a 13 year old niece to the same facility our daughter was in...  Because they are troubled kids... not because of adoption.... but, because some parents cannot deal with cutters---or druggies--or being waken by the blade of a knife...

Rest assured there isn't anyone who will take our kids just because they are ungrateful... most kids are ungrateful... you just have to wait for them to trun 30!

Answer 17

No.....I'm sorry love :P

Don't ya just wish ya could??

Answer 18

I don't know why people post stupid questions like this. If s/he was your biological child would you just give them away because they seem to be ungrateful or unappreciative? No, I'm sure you'll try to work through the problems together. The kid is not some piece of unemotional furniture.

Answer 19

Adoption disruption?

I think someone else mentioned this once.

If my dd rejected us I would be deeply heartbroken.

Answer 20

No, they can't be just returned.  Unfortunately, kids do get put back into foster care system.

Perhaps if the adoptive parents (and I'm one myself) didn't spoil the child so much, and gave them more hugs, love, attention, and dicipline (not abuse!), the kids wouldn't have turned out quite so ungrateful.  Unfortunately, because adoptive parents try so hard to become parents, we have a tendency to spoil our children more, and they become accustomed to having what they want, and then the first time they get diciplined, they rebel, and then that escalates.  

Unfortunately, our natural children, when spoiled too much, can get the same attitude!

Answer 21

NO YOU CAN'T BUT iF YOU ARE HAVING THAT MUCH TROUBLE WITH THEM GET SOME HELP if you have raised them for 12 years why would you want to give up on them. they are starting the teenage years every kid at the age is ungrateful!

Answer 22

People say no, but I personally know a woman who was adopted when she was 5, and her sow of a mother took her back to the childrens home when she was 12, believe me its impacted on her life negatively.

One tip, dont expect your children to be grateful, you are on a hiding to nothing there, were you grateful when you were 12?

Answer 23

Question:

Some states allow the adoptee to have access to their OBC via their adoptive parents signature OR death certificate. If they refuse to sign because their adoptee isn't grateful enough does that mean the adoptee should kill them?

Answer 24

Well, since you don't really care about the answer, I don't know why you'd ask.  But I'll take the bait.

I fully expect my children to be UNgrateful from the start.  Why should my children feel grateful for their rocky beginnings (I'm adopting through foster care), and being taken away from the only people they've ever known or loved, thrown into a brand spankin new family, and expected to "fit in"?  I fully expect to have to EARN the respect of my children.  And if they get to be 12 or 13, and are still ungrateful, I plan to hang in there, and accept that their pain has nothing to do with me, but with the list of above items, which is plenty to last a lifetime.

Answer 25

Probably not.

But if you're an adoptee about, a dunno 12 or 13, and you realise that your adoptive parents are some selfish greedy cruel twats - can you ask to be unadopted??

You're really on a ranting rave today - yes?

Go take your meds and have a lie down.

I do hope you find a lot more compassion when you're really down - than you've shown here today;

Answer 26

Your a filthy *****.... what goes around comes around and I hope you get your fill. This will get my account removed probrably but its worth it...... **** YOU !