Quite long but please read!! Guy friend being really romantic when we sleep near each other...?

Question

Well to set the scene- I have a best guy friend of 2 years- he knows I like him, things used to be kinda akward (we once spent a night drunk in his bed cuddling/groping/kissing forehead etc, about a year ago and that made things pretty akward- he apologised and we both made it clear it wouldnt happen again) but in the past few months, he's becoming a lot more playful and physically close, more talkative with me (will start a convo on msn every time we're online etc)

On results day last week, we got a little tipsy at a friend's house with about 5 friends. We were sleeping on the floor in sleeping bags and watching a film. He asked me to come over for a hug, so i rested my head on his lap throughout the film. Then we decided to go to bed after that, as soon as our friends switched off the lights, I felt him move his hand closer to me, and laid down facing towards me. I put my hand near his, and he started holding it straight away, and stroking it with one finger and he shuffled closer and we fell asleep.

All through the night we were cuddling and he was snuggling his face into mine and cuddling my hand and he kissed it, and he let me stroke his hair. this carried on after everyone else got up in the morning, we stayed in bed til midday doing this.

Things were fine the next day. Then, last night we went out drinking for his 18th birthday. He was teasing me all night, then we stayed at a friends again, on the floor in sleeping bags. He laid facing away from me, until my friend switched off the light. Then he turned to face me and put his hand near me again. I did the same, and he held it again and pretty much the same thing happened again, held hands, then in the morning i stroked his hair as he slept- when he woke up, I stopped but he moved his head underneath my hand to let me carry on.

Whats the deal with this? Its like we are friends during the day, then at night if we ever sleep together, we end up in the same situation, holding hands and cuddling etc. then normal again the next day.

He's leaving for university in 3 weeks :'(

He's the one initiating it, I can tell he moves his hand closer cos he wants me to hold it. Why's he doing this??

Answer 1

hmmm...this has happened to me and sadly it didnt last long .. ...uhmmm i am gona be honest yeah these 'things' dont last long until the opposite s*x/your friend wants it to ..tbh u guys are more like 's*x buddies' ....

you cant tell if a guy likes you until he says it himself ..unless he confesses his feelings towards you ...

does he call you ? text you anytime of the day just randomly ? ..if the answers no for both ..then u really need to think over all this again...but if the answers yes then there is still some hope.

juts to give you a reality check ..your friend will be going away soon..and to university ..that means more chances of meeting other girls...u get the picture right? ...sorry i am being pessimistic ..but i have had similar experience ..and it didnt really work out..the guy left for uni and yeah after that it became awkward for me ..cuz all i cud remember wus him acting liek my bf ...when that wus not really the case..all that wus left were 'regrets' ..

so all u cud do is confront him about this ...and then depending on what he has to say ..u can move on with ur decision

Ciao x

Answer 2

He's into you. Maybe looking for a relationship, maybe just looking for a friends with benefits type thing. But either way he's into you. And secretly, even unknowing of you...you're into him too. So I suggest you talk to him about it. Calmly, non-accusingly. But be clear. And when you figure out what's going on, go with it. And the whole, only at night thing, sounds like he doesn't really want anyone else to know...at least not at this point. So figure things out then figure out what you want. Good luck!

Answer 3

Well since the two of you have been friends for a while now.  It sounds to me either he is sending you mixed signals or he is scared to move your friendship to the next level. With him leaving in 3 weeks you need to ask him straight out.  

Answer 4

Maybe because during the day all of your friends can see whats hes doing and he might be unsure weather you will reject him and he wont want to be rejected infront of everyone. Just ask him whats going on weather its just being cuddly friends or does he want something more ie. a relationship.

I think he either really likes you but is afraid of the friends-turn-into-boyfriend-and-girlfrie... type thing or he just wants to have his cake and eat it lol

Answer 5

Confusing...

Answer 6

Maybe he doesn't want to start anything cause he is going to Uni. It seems as if he wants  to start something with you but is too scared or embarrassed. Were you drinking when these occasions happened because he may have felt braver. Good luck with whatever happens.x

Answer 7

To be fair, alcohol and the evening changes all the rules. I'd be more enclined to do something i wanted to do if it was dark, and i'm not even sure why! I'd say he does like you but perhaps doesn't want to rush into anything, and as he's going to uni wont want to get hurt or hurt you. It depends on what you want, if you're happy to stay friends leave it. If you want more even if it is only for a few weeks I'd try to make a move during the day, maybe go for coffee, or invite him round to watch a movie. If you watch a movie during the day you can close the curtains, that way it wont be dark but a little bit dimmer, making these things easier for some reason unknown to me!! That would be my advice, I'd say he's into you but due to the situation is probably being a bit shy and cautious (spelling!?)

best of luck. i'm rather jealous as that's pretty cute.

Answer 8

you need to talk to him, it sounds like he wants to be more than friends. as you both said it was a mistake before he might think you will not want to be girlfriend boyfriend material and is testing out the water (as they say). just have a chat with him and find out whats going on in his head, don't be all silly about it or make fun cos he probably won't be truthful with ya. good luck

Answer 9

How old are you love? It sounds to me like your young man knows full well that he shouldn't be acting as he is. If you are under age, that would explain his behaviour.

Answer 10

you say that things were "awkward" the first time you and him 'fooled' around, so what makes you think it'll be different this time? all the nights that he has been initiating physical contact with you, you have both been drinking so maybe he just wants a bit of fun, or maybe because he has been drinking he feels more comfortable and can be more open with you. the best thing to do, if you want anything to come from this is to talk to him, straight up, he's your mate, so why not? he is leaving for uni soon anyway, so what have you got to lose? x