RE: how much is too much?

Question

ok so since he's sorta proposed he's turned into a di*k. he's treating me with the same respect u'd give a hiv posotive 90 year old w***e.

Answer 1

A sort of proposal is not a good thing to begin with...and add on top of that him treating you poorly, well I think that's your sign.  If he's not treating you well now, when you are supposed to be in the happiest place right now before you have any of the stresses of marriage and kids, imagine how he will treat you when you are faced with stress.

I think you know the answer, and you know what you need to do. Talk with your family and close friends and start getting a plan in place to kick this guy out or leave him.

Ok, so you don't want to leave him even though you know that he's making you turn into a sheepish insecure doormat?  The only other sensible option is for you to get him to go to counseling.  If he agrees to go to counseling then I would say it's fair to give him another shot...if not, then you are just setting yourself up for a life of misery and you should get yourself into some counseling to figure out why you have such low self esteem that you are putting up with his behaviour.

Answer 2

Give him the boot. Even an actual proposal is no reason to treat you so badly or turn into a tosspot.

Answer 3

You deserve so much better for yourself. Start respecting yourself and remember who you were before you met him. I was in a 12 year relationship that was not good. If I could get out anyone could get out. He had me where I thought I was absolutely nobody at all. Thanks to the support of my friends, I did it. Be strong, you can do it.

Answer 4

hmm he is really going off track now...u should tell him not to give u emotional trauma like that

Answer 5

So it's clear you are in a funk, and you need to do something to get out of it! Maybe take a day time somewhere or go for a bike ride outdoors or whatever it is you like go and do it. Give yourself sometime away from the situation and while doing so take some time to consider what it is you want from him, if it is to get married and be with him, then you need to communicate. All the things you listed def. don't come in a loving relationship, so if you do want to marry him then you ened to sit down and tell him something like this:  I love you more than anything, I need you to stop treating me like c**p or I will have to figure something out which is not what I want to do because I love you more then anything and see how he responds. You can decide what to do from there, but you really need to talk to him and get yourself out of this funk! Good luck!

Answer 6

It's a good thing it was only a "sort-of" proposal, otherwise you'd feel obligated to hang around!

Let's face it, if someone really loves you, they respect you. If he's treating you with disrespect, he thinks that he's got you with his proposal. He forgets that we Leo's are incredible people, who can always find someone else. He better look out, because I bet there are a least three other guys who'd be glad to take his place in a heartbeat!

Take heart, kitten. Don't lose your roar. Among cats, it's the female that rules!

Answer 7

Love goes both ways. Do you really think that, even if he goes ahead and marries you, he will stand by the loving and cherishing part?

I don't think you love him. You're trying to convince yourself you do. He's not the man you fell in love with, cupcake. You can identify abuse yourself pretty well. Why are you still there?

Answer 8

no one i mean no one deserves to be treated that way... your love cant just be enough if he truly loves you then why would he treat you that way? dont let yourself rely on the fact that he'll change, people can change but its easier not to, they say they will, just dont let yourself hang on to that only fact, trust me from my experience my sister and my mom. my mom kept on taking my dad back until she came to the point where she couldnt he was cheating on her for 23 years he even got married once.. dont let yourself be weakened by you love ask yourself if that love or you can endure feeling bad? my mom became ill minded at one point. you cant just trust your feelings all the time it can be blocking your sense of your self-worth you might lose it just like my mom did... look at the way he treats his mom and his family the way his family acts.. it tells you a lot already. just trust your heart and your head too you cant go wrong..

Answer 9

OMG girl!! if he is not treating you with the respect you need you need to at least tell him. u deserve the best d**n respect a future husband should give you.

ok, maybe there is a reason behind this but he needs to at least tell you why. let him know that whatever it is you are there and soon your problems will be his and vice versa. maybe all he needs is a good hug and to chillax a bit.

Answer 10

Sometimes love is not enough darling x*x

Stand up 4 yourself!! No one deserves to be treated badly & if you stay & put up with it then don't feel sorry for yourself.