*** RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ***?

Question

I went out with someone for 6 months, it meant more to me than any relationship than i have ever had. I don't know whether to call it love or not, but the guy i was with said he loved me. The relationship went sour and after, there were lots of arguments, being friends and then not talking. At the moment we are best friends but having s*x, i know he is seeing a girl, but he told me that he still loves me. I know it sounds ridiculous but i am questioning whether i am being a fool or that when he says that im not the other girl and it is totally not like that. i think i need to tell him that it is all (us going out and being good friends) or nothing.

Answer 1

This isn't a relationship, nor is it a friendship.  At this point he is using you and cheating on his new girlfriend.  Are you really willing to settle for the scraps he's offering you?  You shouldn't have any problem telling him you're worth more than you're getting and personally, I'd rather have nothing than have some guy playing with my head, my body and my emotions at his convenience.  You know in your heart this isn't right.  He doesn't love you........it wouldn't be this way if he did!  He's smart like most guys are in that he knows what he needs to say to keep the bedroom door open and keep you waiting on the back burner!  Tell him to hit the road!  Remaining friends after a breakup, although intentions are usually good, is more often than not, impossible.  You need to totally cut ties with this guy so you can bring closure to this relationship and move on.

Answer 2

Ya, I think you should say how the h**l do you still love me if you are seeing another girl. Don't let him convince you that s*x is enough to let you that he loves you. If he doesn't instantly choose you over the other girl then he probably doesn't love you. If a guy loves a girl he would choose her over the world. If he doesn't break up with her for you then forget about him. It might be hard, but its better to do that then let him hurt you later.

Answer 3

would suggest telling him how you feal and give him the option of haveing you 100% or not at all. he cant have is cake and eat hun

hopefully he will choose you, but if he doesnt then you never really lost anything special

good luck

Answer 4

First cut the s*x part ok. Resolve the question by face to face talk that's the only solution and the only way to handle this. I think he is using u as his s*x puppet. So i will say dump him after the confrontation.

Prove it to him that you are not a object of pleasure,  dont serve him like slave,

Answer 5

tell him if he loves you to finish the girl and be with you full time.

you wouldn't want him back if you wasn't having s*x with him.

while your having s*x you still feel the need to be with him

so you wither loose the s*x or he looses the girl hes seeing because he's getting both at the end of the day and your still left heartbroken from it ending, i dont really belive in being friends after a long relationship breaking up. be cacare fullnd think alot about it. dont let him win you around to just staying **** buddies you can do alot better if hes being like that, ytou also got to think if hes seeing a girl and having s*x with you, if you get back with him he could do that to you, right?  

Answer 6

yes i think thats what you need to do... you have to tell him that if thats how you feel.. or you'll just end up getting hurt in the end.

and if you think your a fool.. then i'd have to say no your a fool in love.

who isn't? we all make mistakes but the good thing is... is that you want to change things.

that's very brave.

good luck!  

Answer 7

It's definitely about time you laid that ultimatum out for him.  Personally, it sounds to me like he is telling you he loves you, etc in order to keep having s*x with you.

Either way, you owe it to yourself to tell him it's all or nothing, and above all, follow through with it.  No one deserves to toy around with you like that, and you certainly should not let them.  

Answer 8

it is all up to you. sometimes it feels better to have someone in our life than not at all...even when you are being used(hint hint!). you should just sit down with him and say how you feel, it cant hurt. i hope that things work out well for you.

Answer 9

If he really loved you, do you think he'd be seeing someone else?

Answer 10

Just dump him and find a guy that you feel comterble with .And just tell him that you dont want any thing to do with him because you are going to get in alot of **** hole with that other girl