REPOST - what does this dream mean? I have it often

Question

Okay first off i know i might sound like a raving nut job after this,but i really wanna know.I apologise loads for the length,but it promises a best answer.

I can't really remember the first half,it's sort of foggy to me but then i'll be standing in my kitchen and my mum's washing up.

She'll be looking at me and saying stuff but i don't know what she's saying,i can't hear but her lips are moving.

Then she starts to repeat one word over and over that this time i can hear,she's just standing there saying pathetic again and again.

I lose it and start throwing anything i can reach at her but she's unaffected by it all,she just keeps standing there saying pathetic.

By now i'm pretty upset,i love my mum and i can't understand what's going on so i start to cry.It's like i feel i've let her down but i duno what for.

Then my dad enters from somewhere next to my mum and starts saying lots of things fast,so it sounds really jumbled up and i have no idea what he's saying.

This goes on for what seems like forever and i'm just on the floor watching them,wanting to look away and not listen but i can't.

I then always wake up and i'm so upset i start crying which makes my mum come in to see me,which makes me feel worse because of what happens in the dream.

I don't understand where my dad comes from at all - i don't even know my dad,i've only ever seen pictures of him so why he's in my dream i don't understand.As for my mum,we get along great and everything so why does my dream show the exact opposite :/

Answer 1

Your going through some experiences in your life that you are unsure of. Your mother, who has been your only caretaker, has probably always been there for you, but the experiences or decisions that you are trying to make now are one's that only you can make. You are probably getting frustrated with her suggestions and that's why she talks but all you hear is garble. You may be going through a stage or change in your life that involves your maturity and you know that your mother is there but can't make the decisions that you will be faced with now.

You are dreaming of a father that you never had because you are trying to be strong (which a father figure represents). You are trying to face this change in your life with courage and trying to be strong, things that fathers stand for.

Your probably doing ok but you just don't realize it. As you mature, your relationship with your mother will change-that may already be happening, but the relationship that you will have with her will continue to be positive, just different as you get older.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

you have issues with your mother, maybe not on a conscious level. if you don't agree with me, here's a good web site.

http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionar...

Answer 3

Your dad speaking fast could just mean you want to understand him.. like if he left you, then you want to understand why..

as for your mother.. maybe you've done somthing here lately that you think she might not approve of... or maybe you tell your self she approves yet deep down you know she doesnt.

Answer 4

First of all, the fact that the dream is recurring (frequently as you said) means that your sub-conscious is NOT very creative, and is therefore showing reruns. Luckily the creativity of the subconscious is in no way connected to your conscious, so you may very well still be creative....consciously.

Second, this doesn't have much if anything to do with your mother. It has more to do with your father. It's a self esteem issue. You may not be conscious of the problem, but you're unsure of yourself, afraid of making mistakes OR of being emotionally abandoned. (lack of support from your mother in the dream)

The reason it starts with your mother is because she IS the one person you have come to trust entirely (or nearly so) in your life. Your subconscious is guessing that the good you receive from your mother will disappear like every other good thing in your life because you are not good enough to deserve it (hence the "pathetic" in your dream)

MORE THAN LIKELY these thoughts are completely irrational, and reflect nothing more than emotional fears you have deep down inside as a result of the abandonment by your father. I don't know if it was temporary or permanent, (your father leaving) or what the reason for it was, but a part of you (at least a small part) feels that it somehow might be your fault.

Bottom line is that you're afraid of letting your mother down, and that she'll desert you because of it.