Racist family- bi-racial baby?

Question

Hi, i'm 20 and 12 weeks preggo w/ a 1/2 white and 1/2 black baby. My grandfather would not allow me at his home until i broke up with the man. He even went as far as calling him a N***** to his face. (I broke up with him for conflict of interest. Not my grandfathers ignorance)

Anyway I haven't told them i'm preggo. How do i do it? Should i just cut them out of our lives? Has anyone been through this or something like it?

Answer 1

that is awful , i would keep my baby away from him

Answer 2

I would perhaps give them a chance but if they make one comment I'd let them know in no uncertain terms that it is unacceptable and if they persist you'll have to chose your child over your relationship with them.  Hopefully the adorable little baby will help win them over, but if not you are probably better off cutting them off.  

Answer 3

All I can say is that it is your life.  Your family can either like it  or not.  It is your life, your baby and your man.  Make yourself happy.  Your family will come around sooner or later and if they dont then it is their loss.  Don't cut anything out of your's or your baby's life to make them happy.

Answer 4

no but i am in a similiar situation - no one in my family is predjudiced though and i am not preggers but my BF is very  dark mexican and i am a very light and pale white -  if we want to have children some day so what - the others will just have to get used to it - if they love you at all they will be nice and if they cant be nice then cut them out till they can act like normal people - HUGS and lean on Jesus  

Answer 5

if they dont except the baby then s***w them!!

im black half mexican. and my husband is white. so i understand how certain ppl view us and our son.

ignore stupid ppl.

its ur child!!!!!  

Answer 6

im also having a mixed child and my grandparents are the same way like most of my family is but ya know like i told them if he makes me happy then they have too live with it and if they dont want to see there grandchild that fine too i love my man and my unborn child and i dont see breaking up a wonderful new family because people are still racist dont worry about it im not eventho i love my family i also love the family that im makin

Answer 7

I would just tell them, straight out. It may end up by you having to cut them out of your lives, but hunny I wish the best for you. It will all get better.<3